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I'm assuming (from your profile info) that your Father is struggling to care for your Mom (who has Parkinsons)?
More detail would be helpful, like what areas do you see struggle? Hygiene? Meals? Home maintenance/cleanliness, etc?
You may want to acknowledge he is handling a lot, that he is appreciated and you know he's doint the best he can... but you also know it's hard and getting harder. Ask him if he could take any 2 things off his plate, what would it be? Then (if it's reasonable) do it and this will help him to get used to experiencing the relief of outside help.
Who is the DPoA for your Mom? If it is you or another family member other than your father, this person needs to start exercising their authority and make sure your Mom is getting appropriate care, regardless of what your Father thinks (the help is for *her*, not your Dad).
Irrational stubbornness can be the first inklings of cognitive impairment, so pick your battles wisely as you may not be arguing with his reason, logic and empathy any more.
Make sure the way you speak to him and what you do for him makes hiim feel supported and not bossed, as best as you are able.
Have someone take him out for a day break while someone else hangs out with your Mom. It may be easier to have this discussion when he's out of earshot of her.
I have family where the CareGiver understands very well they need more help.
Barriers to extra help seem to me to be; 1. Already maxxed Gov subsided hours 2. Care Recipient is against it - anxious of 'strangers' - lacks insight into needs - lacks insight that CareGiver needs regular breaks
I agree to having a chat with Dad when he is away from Mom. Does he have to be there & available 24/7? If so, this is a chat starter.
Is your Dad doing all the caring, or are you doing some yourself? If you are, your way to change this is could be to substitute a carer for what you are doing. Perhaps temporarily while you have some ailment, are away, or are extra busy - manufacture a reason that's about you, not him. With someone else in the house doing jobs, it may lead to Dad asking for help with ‘his’ jobs. Tell the carer that it would be good if s/he could take over some things from Dad. See how that goes first – it’s easier than a “you can’t, you shouldn’t” argument.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
More detail would be helpful, like what areas do you see struggle? Hygiene? Meals? Home maintenance/cleanliness, etc?
You may want to acknowledge he is handling a lot, that he is appreciated and you know he's doint the best he can... but you also know it's hard and getting harder. Ask him if he could take any 2 things off his plate, what would it be? Then (if it's reasonable) do it and this will help him to get used to experiencing the relief of outside help.
Who is the DPoA for your Mom? If it is you or another family member other than your father, this person needs to start exercising their authority and make sure your Mom is getting appropriate care, regardless of what your Father thinks (the help is for *her*, not your Dad).
Irrational stubbornness can be the first inklings of cognitive impairment, so pick your battles wisely as you may not be arguing with his reason, logic and empathy any more.
Make sure the way you speak to him and what you do for him makes hiim feel supported and not bossed, as best as you are able.
Have someone take him out for a day break while someone else hangs out with your Mom. It may be easier to have this discussion when he's out of earshot of her.
Barriers to extra help seem to me to be;
1. Already maxxed Gov subsided hours
2. Care Recipient is against it
- anxious of 'strangers'
- lacks insight into needs
- lacks insight that CareGiver needs regular breaks
I agree to having a chat with Dad when he is away from Mom. Does he have to be there & available 24/7? If so, this is a chat starter.