I am a caregiver for an amazing woman who is 88 years young and I adore her. But, she is really in need of a bath or shower and is coming up with a million reasons why she doesn't need to now. I would like to be able to get her to with my help, but I don't want to push or nag her. What to do??
Where are you? In her home? In a facility? Is this woman mobile? Can she stand in order to have a shower? Does she need a shower chair? Did someone else used to bathe her and if so, who? Have you been with her long enough to build trust? Is this woman a family member?
There ARE a million reasons why an elderly person doesn't want to shower. Does she have dementia? If not, just ask her why she doesn't want to shower. Sit down in a comfortable setting and ask her if she'd mind sharing with you her reasons for not wanting to shower.