I am so lost, my dad has dementia and his wife passed away last year. She did so much for him. We never even realized how bad it was. He lives alone and the dr will not deem him incompetent and he has seizures to to it. I do his meds for him and took his keys because of the seizures. I also grocery shop with him, take him to appointments. My brother and sister and I are all on his account but have no authority but see the overdrafts over 300.00 . He will not listen and walks to the corner to buy cigarettes and alcohol. I have tried every avenue with no help. I work in a skilled nursing facility as an occupational therapist, I have called a lawyer, social service for elderly, the dr himself and I get nothing but my dad mad at me , what do I do?
If your father isn't going to listen to you or any of his children, then you may have to report him to APS, and let them figure out the best and next course of action. There are no easy answers. Wishing you the best.
I have to ask if he is an alcoholic? Just put up boundaries to protect yourself and keep then up. I wish you peace in your heart whatever he chooses.