When here I watch and eat with her (even make sure food not going to pocket for later). There have been times I had to put dogs in another room. Her daughter and SIL yell, and daughter has slapped her mom's hand. Then yells that is it, no sweets for you today. Her mom says, I am sorry, and daughter saus no your not and you can stop that fake crying..She thteatens to take her to her brothers house. Tells her not to talk to her, your not sorry....just making me angry. Sometimes her mom has said I wish I would just die. This is breaking my heart. They say she knows what she is doing and does this on purpose. Her mom is 95 and loves and treats one dog in particular like a baby. They will finally yell at repeated questions, and tell her not to keep asking. I was my mom's caregiver (vascular dementia) before she passed. 24/7. Sure, I may have raised my voice at a pushing point with regrets after. But not to this extreme. And I never slapped her. I am here 91/2 to 10 hrs each week day. She is with her mom from 4:45/5:00 to 9/10 (mom's bed time) weekdays. Then full time weekends. Husband demands her attention. So between her work, his demands, and mom's dementia she is stressed to the max. I just wish they understood dementia/Alzheimers better.
I commend you for reaching out to find a solution.