After 8 yrs of my sister taking care of out mom, they decided(my 2 sisters in another state) it was time for assissted living. Understandable,, even with my brother living with them,,pills every 2 hours. in continent at night, changing diapers in the middle of the night. Now in a wheelchair, but during the day can sometimes manage to get on the tiolet by herself. Isnt there some type of 24 hour care, mainly all night care, wherethey can stay at home with family??????
How long has she been there and where are you in regards to her location, and your siblings how did they get her to a NH if they are out of state and you were there with her?
Does Oldest Sister have POA? Would she be opposed to Mother living with you if you could hire enough help for the amount being paid now to the facility?