I just started taking care of my great uncle and aunt. He has a caregiver that has been coming in the am for quite some time now. Her and I are clashing. She has her own ideas on how to handle things. Generally I would not question because I am new to caregiving, however some of her ideas go against what other trained nursing staff say. As well, we just had an incident where I advised I was getting ready to clean an area so she didn't have to but she did anyway then went to my uncle asking him to ask me to let her know so she doesn't double do it. How do I stand up for myself with out being a complainer? Which by the way my uncle dislikes. Letting it go is starting to eat at me.
Whoever organised this didn’t do it well. Who is boss ? Her or you? Or the elders - and if so is that practical? Can they organise the dynamic a bit better? While you need to work co-operatively together, you both still need to know what the pecking order really is. Your post reads as though you think you are boss, while she thinks that she is still in charge.
You want to know how to have your own way ‘without being rude of childish’, but for that to happen everyone needs to know who is in charge.
As far as chores go, that can easily be discussed between the two of you. Funkygrandma’s suggestion of creating a ‘chore chart’ is fabulous!
Best wishes to you and your aunt and uncle.
If so, do have an agreement? Agreed days on, days off, pay rent or as part of your arrangment?
Just wondering if this is a professional arrangment or more of a personal one?