My husband with Alzheimers gets FURIOUS if I bring in a carer for an hour to sit with him so that I can go out.
His AD is too advanced for him to understand explanations or to appeal to his sense of sympathy on my behalf.
The last time I left him with a carer, he swore, kicked his shoes off and took his pants off!! (?)
I'm now trying out having the carer there and we all sit together for an hour in order to try and get my husband used to the idea but this costs me a fortune with no actual benefits for me.
My husband is already on anti-depressants but what I need is a magical "Happy Pill" to make him accept the carer.
P.S. He can't do any activities at all and doesn't enjoy TV. He only wants to be near me or our daughter.
I don't want to put him in full time care yet but am looking at retirement villages (in Australia where we live) and want one where I will get help with him. I'm 57 and my husband is 60 and I feel a bit young for a retirement home but maybe it's necessary.
Sitting with the aid for the time being sounds like a good plan. It may not be beneficial right now but after a few times maybe he will get comfortable enough to let you leave. I think you are on to something with that.
Then, there is always the possibility that he has reached the point in his illness where he may need to live in a full time care facility. For both of your health care needs , maybe, it should be considered. Hard, though, huh?
Good luck. God Bless. Sending you hugs ((((coleen))))
Does he take regular naps?