And if he want stop drinking alcohol. My husband has been drinking for 28 years.3 weeks ago he had fluid in his lungs no energy and could not eat. Now we found out he has heart failure ,only 15 % of his heart is working and he is in stage 4. With the medicine he feels better ,but starting back drinking .What can I expect ? He has been working all his life, but I see him going down more and more. Should we try to file for social security disability? I really don't know what to do.
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This is apparently the first either of you knew about the heart failure, and it is already stage 4. This is very severe. Please make an appointment with his doctor and discuss exactly what the prognosis for your husband is. Is it time to involve Hospice Care? This is not charity, either. We all pay for Medicare and this is a service available through them.
Be very candid with the doctor. Will stopping drinking make any difference in your husband's prognosis? If he takes his drugs, how will that change the outcome? Would exercising help anything? What kind?
Personally, I would only encourage him to stop drinking etc. IF that could make a difference in the outcome. If the damage has already been done and nothing can substantially improve the situation, then I wouldn't use your last months together fighting about behaviors. However, if the outcome can be significantly improved, then trying to get hubby's cooperation is worth the effort.
So ... I think it is critical to talk to the doctor frankly about what impact various measures could have.
This is a very good explanation of ejection fraction and how it works.
http://www.mayoclinic.org/ejection-fraction/expert-answers/faq-20058286. If the link is deleted, Google "ejection fraction" to get other hits on explanation.
Note that it also states that 55% is normal. So 15% is quite low, and dangerous.
There are 2 classifications of heart failure stages: one is alpha and the other numeric. I couldn't successfully get a link on the American Heart Assn. page which describes the 4 stages - it might be a problem with my browser. But Google "stage 4 heart failure" and check out the hits.
Be prepared; stage 4 is not a good place to be. I don't wish to be an alarmist, but if you haven't already, you should get your estate planning affairs in order, especially if your husband won't stop drinking.
Your husband has probably been prescribed Warfarin/Coumadin, an anticoagulant which thins the blood to reduce the event of clotting, as his heart is not pumping out as much blood as it should and that can increase the likelihood of a blood clot. He may also have been prescribed "baby" (81 mg.) aspirin as it also is a blood thinner.
You asked for advice: get him to join Alcoholics Anonymous, NOW. TODAY. That's the best thing both of you can do for his health.
Honestly, I don't know much about SS disability but it seems that his disability is self-induced so I'm not sure why he would qualify for it.
If you're religious, get his pastor to support you in getting him to join AA. If you have family, get their support also.
This is a real wake-up call for your husband and he needs to stop drinking ASAP.
1. It is very hard to measure precisely. Your husband will have had an echocardiogram, which is like an ultrasound of his heart. The cardiac physiologist will have taken measurements of how well the blood was flowing through the chambers of his heart, and of how efficiently the heart was pumping.
2. 15%, although obviously it means the heart is not working well, is not the end of the world. My mother's last EF was measured at 10% - her GP gently explained this was their polite way of saying her heart is rubbish. And yet there she is, sitting in her chair, comfortable and content. You can toddle along for quite a while with poor heart function.
2. The breathlessness will have been caused by a build up of fluid in the lungs (water retention in the tissues), which is improved with diuretics. The trouble is that although diuretics work well, they do have side effects. But, again, my mother's been taking them, with occasional adjustments, since about 1996; and for the moment she is having no problems with fluid retention at all.
Viola, there are a lot of things you haven't mentioned that will make a difference. How old is your husband? What diagnosis has he been given underlying this heart failure (there can be all sorts of causes)? And regarding the alcohol, how much is he drinking, and what is he drinking?
A Scotch or two after dinner, OR a glass of red wine with dinner, OR a beer in front of the tv - these won't hurt him. A bottle of vodka will. If you're worried about how much he's consuming, or that he's unhealthily dependent on alcohol (it's the need, not just the amount, that you want to watch) then discuss it with his doctor.
If you can provide a little more information we could perhaps suggest other sites that would be helpful for you. Try not to worry too much, there are many treatment options available and you will almost certainly find that his doctors can sort him out with a good care plan. He'll need to co-operate, but it doesn't have to ruin his enjoyment of life.
Obviously, ejection fraction in the teens isn't good and it won't sustain someone indefinitely and it's not reversible. If your husband were to start eating heart healthy and quit drinking his heart condition wouldn't improve. Unfortunately the damage has been done.
I think your husband would be eligible for disability however it takes quite a while to go through that process. It would be wise to get started on that now. If you hire a social security disability attorney it would be quicker than doing it yourself because most people are turned down initially. You shouldn't have to pay the lawyer up front but a lawyer would get a percentage of any back payments you receive.
Viola, you need to sit down, take deep breaths, and have a good, clear-eyed look at your husband's diagnosis and prognosis. Any of his doctors will be happy to explain his disease to you; but one of the key things you need to find out is what has caused his heart failure. It could be permanent damage to the muscle of his heart, but it isn't necessarily. Find out! Then you'll know what you're dealing with.
Asking/pleading with/begging an alcoholic, or indeed a hard-drinking man, to 'get help' is a perfect waste of breath and time. You have tried. It hasn't worked. If he won't listen to you, perhaps he'll listen to his doctors. If his behaviour is unacceptable and he won't listen to you, perhaps he'll listen to the police. If he is in fact an alcoholic then maybe support from Al-Anon would help - we know already that knowing you're not alone can take whole weights off your mind. It really doesn't matter who you get help from, but YOU have to make the first move by seeking help. You can't do this on your own.
Same thing with any social security you or your husband might be eligible for - make the first step! Ring them up and ask!
Come back to the forum and let us know how you're getting on. I'm sorry if I'm sounding brusque - actually I really do sympathise, but for things to get better you have to make it happen. Good luck, keep in touch.
But Viola, he has got to start taking this seriously. I'm glad the medicines are working, but he mustn't think that everything can now go back to normal. Any news since you last checked in?
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