My husband has always been a "controller". He believes all he needs to do is give someone money and they owe him forever. His children will not even talk with him unless necessary. We have very little left and he gets mad because I won't take him to get "his" money. He lost his license and I sold his car because he wouldn't stay out of it when I wasn't home. He wants to buy a car and move to Las Vegas.
He's also mean, yells, screams and throw things at me (this is not an age thing he has always been like this). I do not know where to turn can anyone give me ideas.
Please take care of YOURSELF now, ok?
You stated your husband has fallen 5 times in the past two weeks and that he has become more aggressive.
Frequent falling and changes in behaviors is an indication that he me need medication or medication adjustment.
I think it is time for your husband to be evaluated.
Is the Dementia or Alzheimer's officially diagnosed? (Sometimes Drs just hint it could be..)
Dementia will cause falls. Also lack of insight to use the walker. But then, he may just be stubborn!
Falls also happen due to blood pressure problems, blood disorders, balance issues - so many other things.
When was his last medical checkup?
I have a strong willed (stubborn!) Husband too!
This is what I would do;
* Find out what you are dealing with. Book a Dr apt. Trick him to get him there if you must (eg we need new prescriptions). Tell all. The anger, the falls.
Yelling I could take... But I would leave the room immediately. I would not put up with violence in any way. Eg hands striking out, throwing objects.
* I would call 911 if any violence or the next fall (if he is having trouble getting up). Tell them you are afraid for your safety, there is something wrong with him & he keeps falling.
He can be admitted for *falls for investigation*. Then talk to Hospital Doctor about his behaviour.
If this IS Dementia - it's best to know. Then make appropriate plans for his & your future.
Please come back & update.
I agree, if you are ever in fear of being hurt, call the police and tell them he can't come back until he has had a Psychic evaluation for meds.