He only gets up to use the bathroom, or eat. I don't want him to get bedsores. He is also 85 yrs old with dementia. His muscles are very weak,so he hangs onto walls & furniture. I have a hard time getting him to take baths . He wants me to have sex with him,but that is out of the question anymore! !! He leaves poop & pee on the bed,& toilet. I clean it up 6 or 7 times a day!!! I'm also disabled. How can I get hubby up & moving around more,without prospect of sex? (He can't do anything like that anymore ) I love him but ???????
Have you discussed this with his doctor?
In the final stage of his dementia, my husband did not get more confused or more forgetful. He got weaker and weaker. It was his physical abilities that seemed to be failing more than his cognitive ones. When he reached 20 hours of sleeping per day I called for a hospice evaluation, and he went on that program.
Another woman I used to know had a severe brain injury. She was in a wheelchair and had to wear Depends. While her husband was changing her she'd convey to him that she wanted to have sex. Of course, changing his wife's diapers did nothing for his sex drive. It just goes to show you that sex is a basic human instinct that we all have.
I'm glad he got up on his own! I hope he keeps it up!
Maybe tell him you'll have sex with him if he gets up and then hope that he forgets it.
(I kid).