Husband with Alz. constantly wants me to buy him a car so he can drive. I sold his car two years ago when he was diagnosed with Alz. and started getting lost and confused. Now he yells and screams every morning about wanting his car back. I have had the doctor talk to him. I have had the State of Florida revoke his license and have tried several times to explain that it is no longer safe for him to drive that he gets confused(of course we all know explaining anything to an alz person is useless.) His explanation to me is no one knows what they are talking about and I am not making any sense. I am at the end of my rope with his yelling and screaming every morning about the car. I have tried redirecting him. He goes to day care three times a week to try and distract his attention but each morning its the same story all over again. I usually walk away until he calms down but this morning he pushed me and said "you have to listen to me" which I do until I can't take it anymore.
Anyone have any suggestions. Please help.
Also, it may be time for some sedatives, anti depressants or other pharmaceutical intervention. Perhaps assisted living so you can be safe?
Angel
Also someone asked if we have guns in the house. We do not. I have also hidden all the knives, not that he has ever picked up one to hurt me but just as a precaution.
My dad periodically yells at her in the mornings also.. different issues but same kind of thing till my mom is just in tears. Sometimes it is just annoying and repetitive but then sometimes it escalates like what you described...and the argument always illogical.
Usually if I go over I can distract him or I take him somewhere. Do you have anyone close by that you can call to come in to distract him? I know mom could not do this on her own... she couldn't generate enough of a distraction. Other than these occasional outbursts.. my dad is really pretty easy going.
Anyway just wanted to give you a (((hug)))... I know how difficult this is for you. I would like to get a resolution to this as well.. I hate seeing my mom in tears.
Your friend are just plain wrong about assisted living. He will not go downhill there, he will have better stimulating activities, more companionship and you will have peace of mind. Your are under tremendous stress, working and caregiving with no respite and now some physical aggression. Certainly talk to his doctor about this, but if it happens again, it feels like a game changer to me.
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