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My husband has vascular Alzheimer's. He is violent and verbally abusive to me but not to others - how can that be. His memory is almost completely lost but has the strange ability to lie effectively to others
So, my elderly aunt cared for my uncle with dementia at home, " because if he went into a facility, he'd die".
So, one day, one of my cousins showed up for a surprise vist. Aunt and Uncle lived in Florida; cousins were in thee Midwest. So, he sees his mom is covered in bruises. Uncle has been beating her black and blue, because he wants to get out of the condo to walk. On the Interstate.
Uncle goes to memory care. Aunt drops dead of a heart attack about two months after placing him ( built up stress? Who knows).
Uncle lives happily and healthily for 3 more years.
Please get him into the right level of care. Now. For your sake and for his.
Regardless of how he may manage okay with others or how he may lie effectively, there are remedies for your protection. Do not hesitate to get protection.
It's not just you who could suffer if he really hurts you either. I posted on this site about a month ago a man who had dementia in NC who was arrested after he killed his wife and adult daughter. Neighbors, family, friends were very upset, because they just didn't think he was capable of killing his loving wife an daughter who care for him in his home, but they knew he had dementia and they did not protect themselves. Now, he's facing murder charges, even though, he has dementia. I'm not sure what will happen to him.
Please get yourself some place safe. There are places he could be well cared for.
You must protect yourself. No matter how much you love him and how much you want to stand by him, remaining in a dangerous situation is doing neither of you any favors. It is time to find appropriate placement.
My girlfriend kept her husband at home until he became violent. For your own safety please consider getting him to a safe facility, even a hospital. Yes he can tell fabulous lies, but in his mind they are real events. Please call your MD and ask for help keeping safe.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
So, one day, one of my cousins showed up for a surprise vist. Aunt and Uncle lived in Florida; cousins were in thee Midwest. So, he sees his mom is covered in bruises. Uncle has been beating her black and blue, because he wants to get out of the condo to walk. On the Interstate.
Uncle goes to memory care. Aunt drops dead of a heart attack about two months after placing him ( built up stress? Who knows).
Uncle lives happily and healthily for 3 more years.
Please get him into the right level of care. Now. For your sake and for his.
It's not just you who could suffer if he really hurts you either. I posted on this site about a month ago a man who had dementia in NC who was arrested after he killed his wife and adult daughter. Neighbors, family, friends were very upset, because they just didn't think he was capable of killing his loving wife an daughter who care for him in his home, but they knew he had dementia and they did not protect themselves. Now, he's facing murder charges, even though, he has dementia. I'm not sure what will happen to him.
Please get yourself some place safe. There are places he could be well cared for.
Yes he can tell fabulous lies, but in his mind they are real events. Please call your MD and ask for help keeping safe.