He persisted a while and I took his hand and he said thank you for helping and returned to be and went to sleep. Nedless to say it was a while before I could sleep. Today he seems to be what we know is his normal. No mention from him nor did I mention it. Was that right and how can this be so fleeting but so real? Is that a hallucination or a delusion?
I recall reading a post from a woman whose husband insisted there was a fish hook in the blanket. Failing to calm him down with reassurances, she went out and came back with a pliers and with something else in her closed hand. She showed him the pliers and with her back to him she put a fishing fly in it, turned around and exclaimed, I got it! Her satisfied husband went back to sleep. She showed him that she took his concerns seriously and that she would do her best to care for him. The "removal" of the fish hook was secondary.
As to whether it was a delusion or hallucination, I guess that depends on if he was seeing what he was describing.
You're such a good wife!
No he wasn't but I was a nurse and he started the request with "nurse"...! What would you suppose?
Sometime ago a poster wrote that her mother could become anxious finding and rounding up "all the babies". While I don't remember all the details, I believe that she had lost a child when she was younger. I think the trauma of that death presented itself later in life.
I think that notwithstanding dementia and old age issues, we don't really fully understand the nature of dreams. I still have them about my sister, who died in 2003. In my dreams, she's alive and healthy. I had intense dreams also right after my mother and sister died fairly close together.
Ambien is another possibility. Two of my family members and one friend said they had very unsettling dreams when they took Ambien, which is why they didn't take it after realizing it caused disturbing dreams.
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