I have tried to take her places for entertainment and just to get out of the house. Here's my big problem, all she wants to do is get a boyfriend or go shopping. In her hay day she had tons of men whenever she wanted and she also had plenty of money to buy tons and tons of junk. Well, we are barely getting by financially so therefore shopping is out! I'm sorry, I'm not taking her to bars to pick up men. Any suggestions of activities out there for her. She doesn't have any lady friends. I had suggested the zoo, museums, downtown Chicago, she just sneered and turned up her nose. She can't let go of the past and move forward, she can only say how depressed and miserable she is. What is there to do on a shoe string budget?
You are looking after an addict. Do you think she's getting enough psychiatric input?
And, besides, I don't think in her case it is about enjoyment, is it? It's about need. Hence: addict.
Well. I tried googling "glamour on a shoestring for elders" and it didn't get me very far. Because the truth of it is, and let's not get censorious about it, this lady has fed spiritually on admiration all her life and now there is a bit of a famine. It may be there is not a lot you can do about it. She may be having to reap what her life has led her to sow. Still! - she's lucky to have you with her, trying to find something to compensate for what she's missing.
Does she still have a lot of fancy stuff? Going through it and admiring her taste might take up the odd rainy afternoon. But quite where you are to find her the requisite male audience, sheesh..!
Where used she to hang out? I'm wondering if you might be able to track down any of the crowds now that they're all in their old age too, see where they've got to. Maybe they'll be members of clubs or day care centres that have affordable activities to offer.
Ooh boy. How many hours a day do you have to handle this client? I have to say I wouldn't be in your shoes for all the tea in China - she sounds like my MIL (apart from the actually having scheduled sex bit. I hope. As far as I know).
Have you dealt with her sort before?
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