We bought those panty type diapers, which I think are good. After my caregiver give her a shower. We try to get them on her. She must wear them for doctors Appts. Food shopping. Anything to get her out of the house. She screams and screams and just keeps yelling ,No,No, No". Any suggestions?
The only other option is putting pads into her regular panties. I'm not sure how well that would work. I have no experience with that.
There's a company called HDIS that sells all different brands such as Depends, Always, Tena, etc. I found them on the internet and asked for a catalog.
You have to pick your battles, but I think I would have to insist she wear the disposal panties/depends, if she is not able or refusing to use the toilet.
My loved one is double incontinent in Memory Care (wears adult diapers) and they put her on the toilet on a regular schedule. I think it helps. Maybe, it would help her. Will she cooperate and sit on the toilet at a certain time, such as when she normally has a BM?
If she is resistant to the disposal panties/depends, then I would have her wear the adult onesies that button in the back and cannot be removed by the dementia patient. If she can't get it off, then she can't remove the adult diaper. I wouldn't argue or fight about it, I would just put them on her, distract, love on and wait for her to accept and adjust. She's not in a position to be in charge of this decision any longer. But, you are the one doing the clean up, so it's up to you if you want to continue doing it that way.