Been responsible for parents since I was 16 years old. My dad is deceased 25 years ago and it just continued on with my mom now she is 86 and I am so tired I think I have burn out. I have 2 brothers, they don't do anything just me and my husband which is so good at helping me. I just want to throw it all down and walk away but I know I can't. that is my story.
Adults have options. You do not "have to" be responsible for another adult. That is a lie your parent told you in order to control you. Do what you have to do to live your life. Your life matters.
Thank you both for the replies.
Being some one that does not care the least bit about pro sports, it leaves me with nothing to do except to take care of DW. She is non verbal and right now she cannot stand let alone walk. I can't get her into bed which would make some services easier. I am sure like and many others, I can't even get to the stores without hiring someone to sit with her. Now I have difficulty washing her.
I have decided that today I am going to call for non emergency medical transport to the ER for her and see if I can get some answers and results. I simply cannot lift her any more. I have muscles aching I never knew I had .
Knowing that there are others like me or close is sad but comforting. Knowing that I can just just unload here without criticism sure helps.
Thanks to all.
She cannot be left alone. Today is Monday and I haven't been out of the house since Friday except once to get the mail.
No buddies to talk with. Can''t go any place, even if I could get her in the minivan. She has out bursts in public, "accidents" from her slacks, can't walk now, you name it.
No activity even if I hire a companion, I am stuck and on a time clock.
Fortunately I retired before diagnosis. And there is no family to step in to help.
This seemingly life for the duration or until I have to commit her.