do i needto get guardianship of my 88 year old dad with Alzheimer's. He lives in an assisted living facility now. We just lost my mom 3 weeks ago and she did everything for him. I have POA and control of his medical and finances already.
The issue i have is i have a Blood sucking money hungry vampire sister and brother in law that all they see is green $$$$$$$$.
any advise
I think I would leave well enough alone, after safeguarding the accounts. If you apply for guardianship your sister might fight you, and then you'll have an expense fight on your hands.
If Vampire decides to apply for guardianship, you won't really have much recourse but to fight it. But I won't start the process myself.
Keep extremely good records of how you handle Mother's accounts.
Condolences on the recent death of your Mother.
Hugs to you and sincere sympathy on the death of your Mother. Take care.
he even said when i find mom tell her i want a divorce. This is a LIFE CHANGING EVENT. It is very damaging to my family of 6. It is really pressing my relationsahip with my wife.....
Poor Son and Daughter-in-law. Father's confusion is painful. His repeated calls are annoying. And the responsibility for another adult takes time away from the responsibilities for the children. This is not easy!
I'd say give Dad a few more weeks to adjust to being alone. If he needs to move to a higher care level, he'll need time to adjust to that, too. Then come back here and make more posts. Get advice on how to set limits with Dad and how to protect yourself and your family while still supporting Dad. Mostly people who have something to say about guardianship will read this thread, so starting new threads when the time comes may get you responses from a broader range of forum members.
When you say you "relinquished POA" did the POA name you and your sister as in attorney-in-fact or her as successor and you simply let her take over or did you mother have a new POA drawn?
If their was a new document drawn, what does it say? Are you named as an attorney-in-fact or successor?
If you are not happy with the current document and mom has capacity she can have previous powers revoked and have a new POA drawn.