She lives a fair way away. We chat occasionally and happily on the phone, but when we meet (about once a year) she usually gets angry with me over nothing. This last time at a family ashes scattering, she hit me on the head very hard because ‘I touched her hair’. No apology, and I have no memory of this annoying her previously. This is the first time I’ve realised that it’s meetings, not telephone talking, that causes problems. Any ideas about what is going on? I’m having a hard time working out whether to try to keep a relationship or not, or how for that matter.
It’s interesting that she may not have been like that before. I just wouldn’t touch her. Not worth getting whacked on the head for!
How is she in person if she isn’t being touched?
" Love them from afar. "
I can't emphasize how useful these words have been!
You can love people...from faaaar away. Good luck!
I would look at how you are invading her space and figure out if you are treating her like you did when you were children.
My brother tried that crap and it never went well. See, I grew up and I didn't want anyone touching me with any form of aggression and he couldn't stop himself apparently. So we don't see one another because I won't tolerate being manhandled by anyone.
She may feel that you're belittling her or reminding her that you are the big sister, the whole hierarchy thing that some people get hung up on.
Hopefully you can find out what motivates her to react so harshly when you touch her, until then, keep your hands to yourself, it always causes a fight with you girls. 😋