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Sometimes the easy things to do turn out to be the hardest. There is no time frame for publishing an obituary. Since she gave you an outline, just flesh it out a little and then sit on it for a day or two and look at it again. You may decide to rework it.
As far as the financial dealings, that could probably be done easiest with a written "to do" list for you to focus on and be able to check off one by one. Pull a credit report so that you have a good idea of any accounts that you might not be aware of. Be sure you have some certified copies of her death certificate on hand.
As you are going through her papers, look for anything that might be needed to file her final income tax return. Don't worry about going through her personal effects just yet, give yourself time to grieve.
Thank you all for the responses - makes me feel much better about delaying the obit, which again, I know she wanted me to write, but she wanted it to be extremely simple, which is hard for me to do. I will try to get it done in the next week though. I did make a little headway today on her finances (just need to close accts., call all the financial institutions, pay bills, etc.) -- it's all just so overwhelming with the extreme grief I am feeling. I can't even begin to go through her personal things. I cry many times a day and can't manage to do anything. Going to get some counseling soon.
No you are not in any way terrible you are still grieving and when you feel able you will do it however long it takes. Take your time. as far as the finaces are concerned if there is tax return to be filedfor last year I am afraid you will need to do that before the deadline. But again a little at a time especially if it is complicated. If it's too much for you take it to a tax preparer. Hope you feel stronger soon.
no your not terrible . terrible is using your jacket to snuff out a motorcycle carb fire while bystanders use theirs to put out your wifes pantleg fire . i have more stories of what terrible is than harlequin has soft p**n paperbacks .
I doubt there is any type of etiquette that says there is a certain time frame that one has to write an obituary. Don't worry about it. I have seen obituaries that were 6 months after the fact.
She wanted one published and told me what to write, I just haven't done it yet because I'm too emotional. She was not in touch with her old friends, so they don't know. It's something I know I have to do, just wondering if doing it 2 months late is horrible, or acceptable.
Not everyone has an obituary. Your Mom's relatives and friends have already known she has passed on [sorry for your loss], so is there a need to let strangers know about it, too? Just a thought.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Sometimes the easy things to do turn out to be the hardest. There is no time frame for publishing an obituary. Since she gave you an outline, just flesh it out a little and then sit on it for a day or two and look at it again. You may decide to rework it.
As far as the financial dealings, that could probably be done easiest with a written "to do" list for you to focus on and be able to check off one by one. Pull a credit report so that you have a good idea of any accounts that you might not be aware of. Be sure you have some certified copies of her death certificate on hand.
As you are going through her papers, look for anything that might be needed to file her final income tax return. Don't worry about going through her personal effects just yet, give yourself time to grieve.