My hubby after 8 months of being sober and almost dying in the hospital last November, started drinking again about 4 days now.
The doc just informed him that the part of his liver that is not scarred looked to be doing ok, this was before he decided to drink.
He has a huge umbilical hernia and just said he was scared, because it was hard to push in and hurt for a while. He says it’s not hurting now, but I think it is. I said let’s go to the hospital, all he said was no, I’ll get Covid-19.
All he’s ate today is a McGriddle from McDonald’s lol, but says he’s not hungry. He’s just drinking beer, but seems to have a lot of congestion he keeps spitting up.
I’m scared, because I don’t know how to help him. He’s being cordial but just does not look right. He has not taken his medication for going on 4 days now, even when I try to tell him to.
Have you called Hospice? If he wants to not take meds and doesn't want medical intervention, he should at least should be made comfortable while he is dying. And it would be some support for you.
They have gave you some good advice on here about calling 911. If he is not doing well just go into another room and make the call. You could save his life.
I too had an umbiblical hernia. Can't play around with that.
I am sorry for what you are going through.
You can’t change anyone’s behavior unless they want to change. If I was told by my doctor that my liver was scarred due to alcohol I would quit drinking as Alcoholism is a disease too. Maybe your husband is in denial of how sick he is. Maybe he feels like he almost died last November and has another chance now. Whether he takes the ball and runs with it is his choice.
I’d have him make an appt with a general surgeon to have that umbilical hernia evaluated and possibly repaired. If it gets too large husband can develop a small bowel obstruction & can potentially get very ill from this.
Who is providing him with alcohol? Does he admit he has a drinking problem? Maybe switch out the beer for a non alcohol brand?
You can lead a horse to water but can’t make them drink. He stopped his Lactulose once; is he back to taking it now?
You are doing the best you can under the circumstances. Alcoholism affects the entire family. There is Alcoholic Anonymous for him and Al-Anon for family members. You can join the family support groups in your area to provide support for yourself to learn coping mechanisms to live with an alcoholic. Good luck Gina.
as far as who is buying it, he is, I informed him when he almost died that I would never buy again.
he refuses to go to Er and told me he will deny the paramedics. He keeps spitting up the beer kind of like foam, and has a lot of plemgn, his bp this morning is 184/97 and oxygen is at 80.
i know he needs to go to Er, but he is still thinking right so the peramedics won’t take him. 😢
You saved his life by doing that.
Do it again. Please.
I'm so sorry for what you are experiencing with your husband. He doesn't seem to realize how upset and scared you are in this situation.
Doctors prefer oxygen levels to be at least 95 or higher. When my mom had to go to a rehab facility for physical therapy after she nearly died from severe dehydration and contracting COVID in her AL facility, her oxygen went down to 72 when she was transported there from the hospital. She's never had it that low so they put her on oxygen. Thankfully, it went up to 93 but they did ask me what I wanted to do if it goes down into the 80's while she's on oxygen. We already had DNR orders in place so I said they would have to call hospice in. She would not be going back to any hospital at that point - those were her wishes. She didn't have anymore problems after that where the oxygen levels were concerned.
With blood pressure my husband's rose to 150/110. When the top number reaches 200 - it's ER time. Hopefully, now that he is back to taking his medication he will continue to do so. But, if he stops again and it gets real high. Just go into another room and call 911 - don't give him a choice or allow him to put you through this needlessly. Let the emergency personnel handle the situation. I sure hope things settle down for you - I'll pray for you - that you may have peace and cooperation from your husband! Take care -
If you are afraid for his well being please do not hesitate to call 911
I don't have a clue what you should do but I pray that you are okay and know that I am praying for you.