My husband's oldest sister is power of attorney he is very intimidated of her she has to just control everything and he's sneaky he's disabled. I have a 26 year old special needs daughter.
Been married 5 years he recently was to start like an adult day program but she did not like that they would be doing everything not being to be in control. I did apply for being his payee she comes along and was again has it again.
He only gets to me what she wants him to have for money he calls her she stopped his medications from being mailed to our home she very seldom buys him clothes we could of been in a new home in September but her if only I could of afforded the rent she up there he cannot walk up steps he suffers with seizures as well as my daughter.
He can do steps my daughter she needs assistance. I am so sick and tired of this crap and want out my marriage. We have been married 5 years I have a list of apartments and did get on ones waiting list. Money is my main problem I not knowing what I do now lost my Section 8 voucher and he would not do what was needed for me to get back. The Section 8 worker said I could reapply.
I stay stressed and worried to no end. I want out this marriage my husband wont speak up for us. I see never being able to move. I was told he believes whatever she says thinks she's right because she is the oldest. All replies ASAP
He s not going to the program because she cannot be in control why I told her to see about one my daughter goes to beats me but the day support manger is nice but I feel you get on her nerves I do not know.
You cannot control everybody and everything okay some of these comments are just getting on my last nerve not yours thank you.
I honestly have no advice here except that you get yourself represented as the wife of this man.
I tried and did become payee I know she talks to him no takes advantage he suffers with a mental inpairment and like I said in my post he s sneaky two peas in a pod and with this I will say day program they were to do everything even his medicines he would not even have the same doctor they had a doctor he wont speak up for nothing.
I used to be intimidated of her but now if need be I let her know I did not speak to him for 2 weeks when we were not able to move into that house in September all because he would of stand up for us.
She just does not wont to lose being power of attorney to me wont s to control everything its a shame and does not wont to take care of him.
Before you bolt from this marriage/situation, make sure you know where you are going and how you will survive. Make sure your daughter is cared for. Call your county department of Health and Human Services and ask for their help. You’ll need a caseworker.