I have been my fathers caregiver for the last 7 years. His dementia has been getting worse very rapidly. He has not been diagnosed yet with it but all of the doctors see it. We have an appt in a week and a half for a test for it. He exploded on me 3 weeks ago & now my sister has taken over everything & has him believing that I stole from him. It's a common thing with dementia where they start to believe & tell people that the caregiver is stealing from them. I don't know where to go from here.....She is about to have him sell his house which is to be left to me & change his life insurance beneficiary which is me & have him sign a new will.
Has anyone gone through this & do you have any advice that will help me please? He lives with his girlfriend who has all of her faculties but she is his little cheerleader & does what he says because she is afraid he will leave.
Now, is Dad telling you that his life insurance is being changed, and so is his Will? If so, remember he has dementia, and in Dad's mind he is thinking these things are true. Or did your sister tell you directly that the life insurance is being changed, along with the Will?
Curious, why hasn't your Dad's girlfriend been his caregiver?
Here's the thing: if your father gets formally diagnosed with dementia, he cannot just change his will and his life insurance policy willy nilly. Because people can easily take advantage of a demented senior, as you are seeing, and that is why a person without his faculties isn't able to make changes to such legal documents.
I suggest you call an Elder Care attorney immediately, BEFORE dad goes for his dementia test, and explain to him or her what is going on. Get some legal advice which is your best bet moving forward
Wishing you the BEST of luck!!