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Mother and her one of two daughters she lived with the last 7 years ..but she has gotten very cruel and it's like to me anyway, denial and she doesn't want to admit or anything ...it's like she treats me now inhuman and I had hoped it was just a phase she is going through, but it seems to not be getting better ....she is emotionally cruel and got to the point she talks me dying all the time to daily basis now. I have tried a therapist and she denies to her Dr acting this way ...now that I put a nanny cam on then she seemed a bit better for a while. I recently got sick and I can't figure out how she stays up so much. And I had to ask my best friend who could luckily come and stay a couple of weeks from her living out of State. Because mom doesn't walk so I had to have someone to help me to feed her and all. Idk what to do. Or what makes her have most people say violent tendencies and I don't know how she stays up a lot and she is like always thinking. Thank you for any help.

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In your profile you say that you don't know much about dementia, but that your mom has it. You obviously have access to a computer, so why don't you do some research, and check out some videos by Teepa Snow? The best way to deal with someone with dementia/Alzheimer's is to educate yourself, so you're not surprised or offended by things they do or say. The book "The 36 Hour Day" is also a very good source of education and information. If your mom in fact has dementia, her brain is now broken and won't get better, only worse, so it may be time to be looking for other options for her care. Best wishes.
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Your profile information is helpful:
"I am caring for my mother, living at home with alzheimer's / dementia, hearing loss, and sleep disorder." She's 72 years old, which is fairly young.

When you say she "stays up so much" I'm assuming you mean she is awake. If I were in your situation I would call or take her to her doctor to make sure she isn't having something other than dementia/ALZ, like she could have a UTI, thyroid issues, overmedication. Does she have a history of mental illness, like bipolar disorder?

Are you her Power of Attorney? If not, and no one is, it would be very important to encourage your mom to assign someone so that she has a trustworthy and available representative to act in her best interests if/when she no longer can.

If she does have dementia, this sleep disorder/wakefullness at odd times can be a phase but it can also be addressed with medications, if she's cooperative.

Do you have any help with her care? If finances are an issue you may want to consider calling social services for your county at the Dept of Human Services online and request an in-home assessment. She may be qualified for some free services from Medicaid. I wish you much success in helping her get what you both need.
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Dontknowever May 2021
My mother stays awake I mean suntimes 48 hours n now watches the same 3 movies day in day out....I've ask her why or if she gets borde but she will bmm change the
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These violent tendencies are part of her Dementia and it would help if you got her evaluated by a neurologist. There is medication for this but you need to know what type she has to get the right meds.

I agree, if you are going to care for Mom then you need to educate yourself.
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Thank Yu I been reading a lot about dementia n Alzheimer's .....ever since I had ..well I thought a friend come cus I fell n broke my hip ....but it's been like mom is so much worse towards me ....I looked n the friend had dun everything I mean down to mom smoking n baby her very badly now she is really cruel n I mean tells me she hopes I die.....she threatens me n idk what to do....I promised her I wouldn't put her in a nursing home. ....she ask me about a durable p.o.a. about 6-8 months ago n we did .. mom was never like this. I've got no family or nothing ....not many friends who could really help me. I just can't make her get up. I meant to say also. She has lost a lot of weight but she still won't get up outta bed....she has arthritis n takes synthroid for her thyroid
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Idk what to do n what kind of evaluation she needs .. can someone please help me to understand that ....also I was wondering. My mom's memory is really great. So can it still be dementia
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If this is a recent change get her checked for a UTI. My mom's aggressive tendencies would escalate when she had a UTI.
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There are many things such as UTIs, Dementia, medication, or withdrawals from caffeine, lack of certain nutrients, sugar highs, and lows. I would suggest you speak with her primary care physician to see what is going on with her.
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