You meet a new neighbor a few months ago and they are very nice. When they see you outside they always wave or sometimes stop and talk to you and vice-versa. You see them a few times a week. You went out for coffee a few times. You learn some things about them, like where they grew up. What they do for a living, etc.. They ask if you want to go to the shore this summer. You say maybe. You are not at all romantically interested, you just think they are a nice neighbor and new friend.
Then one day you see them driving by, wave and notice that their new car license plate has you first name on it! Your name is relatively short and very common. You ask the neighbor if the name on the plate has to do with you or someone else. They say it was just the plate they received; they did not apply for a personalized plate. It was just a coincidence.
What do you think of this situation? What would you do or say to the neighbor?
Lisa, I suggest you play a new game of spotting cars that have a common personal name as part of their licence plate. Once you get to twenty perhaps you'll feel a little less anxious about this.
Based on the info you've given here, I wouldn't be suspicious of ulterior motives, especially when you've asked the question and been given an answer.
I have taken all the replies in consideration. I'm not paranoid; I just think it's a weird coincidence. I think most reasonable people would at least think it is a bit odd.
My brother is still proving services to my father. I live where I do because my father is here and he needs my help on a regular basis. I'm on call 24/7.
I am going to now enjoy my life and I will devote my time to myself and to friends I choose and vice-versa.
Please enjoy your life. I want that too for you, but frankly I believe you could use some feedback in a fully confidential setting about your reaction to a range of social interactions so that you do have more friends.
However, some specificity would be nice.
According to you, by the end of March, you agreed with brother that it was time to place dad. Before that, dad had aides paid for by brother. Are you now taking on what the aides did? Do you expect to be paid?
I have given up many years for my father and family at the exclusion of myself. I had countless opportunities for all kinds of things. My brother jumped at the chance to do his wonderful life things and I stayed with dad and made sure he was well taken care of. I don't regret it. I believe I have many more good years and I hope others reading this forum who have experienced something similar can take my positive message and go on with their life knowing that they're not alone and can make their remaining years their best years.
I do think you need someone to talk to. Someone professional. That’s meant with no slight, but there’s a reason your perception constantly goes toward themes of slights or sneakiness or suspicion.
Secondly, most posts on this entire forum are about conflicts with others. This is a main reason the forum exists!
Thirdly, many people are abusive in all kinds of ways from slight to major. It's true. You know this for sure. It's not just me. There's also lots of people who would never for example belittle someone. There's lots of people who do. This is a fact.
Are you "DATING" your neighbor? I ask because it appears you are being less than straightforward with him. Maybe even Coy, when you answer "maybe" to an invitation. It is obvious that you are uncomfortable, or wishing to proceed carefully.
How would you differentiate between dating and going for coffee with this neighbor? How do you think he sees it, as a developing friendship/dating is possible?
I don't think you need to get advice about this, because you are not a victim, yet.
Their own choices are unlimited, and they can, in fact, bump us, or any comment we make, right on off the page at their own will, and for whatever reason they choose.
Our choices are TWO.
1) stay
2) go
You DO run into odd situations at every turn, it would seem.
This one may be a good one for your facebook group. If you don't have one I suggest you open one. This is a caregiver forum.
That said, I would consider leaving your neighbor alone. A nice wave hello and goodbye as you come and go and run into him or her might be nice. I would say the same to your neighbor. Were he or she to ask.
When selling a car, you take ur tags off and turn them into the DMV. They r issued to you and only you.
It maybe smart to adopt that position. You can be polite, courteous and friendly from your side of the fence. If the neighbor keeps trying to push their way in, keep coming up with excuses to avoid them. Eventually they will get the hint and maybe new license plates!
It's not even your real name.
BarbBrooklyn wrote:
Mar 23, 2022
"Lisa Trevor" is the name of a character in Resident Evil.
"Lisa Trevor is a character from the Resident Evil series of survival horror games. She is featured in the Resident Evil remake and Resident Evil: The Umbrella Chronicles. Lisa was a human test subject forced to undergo a plethora of biological experiments conducted by the nefarious Umbrella Corporation."
21.245 Special License Plate Transfers (CVC §5110)
Special License Plates may remain on a vehicle being transferred if the license plate owner of record releases his/her priority and the *new owner wishes to retain the license plates.*
In addition to the usual transfer requirements shown in Chapter 11, the procedures must be followed:
A Special Interest License Plate Application (REG 17) form completed by the license plate owner of record with the transfer application showing the release of license plate priority.
A REG 17 completed by the ** new owner submitted with the transfer application showing they wish to apply for the license plate.**