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Hope - I hope you'll follow the good advice above and NOT put yourself in a financial pickle to help your parents. I don't know your age but if you're over 45 and single, your ability to save for your own retirement is JUST AS IMPORTANT as caring for your parents. Would they REALLY want you to sacrifice your financial security to help them? Don't think of your parents as they are now, think of them 20 years ago. What would they tell you?
Unless the house will be a large financial asset for you and not a drain - think about upkeep, property taxes, maintenance - then you might want to find another solution. If it will soon need a new roof, if the basement has water problems, if the windows are old and drafty, if the porch is falling off.. it might be wiser to put it in your name somehow, sell it and use the proceeds to buy something newer, smaller and one that will last YOU for a long while.
You might also consider doing a life estate, also called deed of trust, with your parents. This means that they sign over their equity in the house to you and have the right to ownership as long as they live. Once they pass away, the ownership of the property goes to you. If there's a mortgage on the home then there are other concerns. it's best to seek legal counsel regarding that matter. What's a couple hundred dollars to get the right information and piece of mind?
In some states, the life estate means that, even if the parent gets medicaide and liens are placed on the property to recoup the states expenditures, the state can't fulfill the lien when the parent passes because the death means they no longer own the asset. If one parent needs medicaide for a nursing home and the other is able to live at home, the state will not place liens on the house because the spouse needs a home to live in. They state will also consider mortgage payments from their income to provide a home for the remaining spouse.
I hope you can find a solution that's best for you and your parents. Please, please consider ALL your options before quitting your job. Those 401(K) funds will be very dear to you later and using them up now should be your ABSOLUTE LAST resort.
1. All withdrawals from your 401k are going to be income taxable to you so you will suffer some unnecessary diminution of funds due to excess taxation (the withdrawal of a substantial sum will put you in a higher tax bracket making it even worse). And, you will not be getting a corresponding tax deduction (as noted).
2. What is the current value of the home? Most properties have fallen in value BELOW any possible resale price and it is unlikely home values will rise to any appreciable degree for the next 10 years or so. Is the house worth less than the balance on the mortgage?
3. The house is your residence, but it is their home. Will you be put on the deed? How will your interest be secured. If you do put money in the property make very sure you document everything! If the folks need to apply for Medicaid some day you will have to PROVE your contribution to prohibit Medicaid from considering the home all theirs.
4. If you needed to get money back out of the house it will cost money to do so.
5. I would suggest budgeting monthly withdrawals from your 401k to help pay the mortgage if there are problems now. Alternatively, you might want to consider a calculation using making a few extra payments a year. This can drop the term of a 30 year mortgage to about 18. It will also drop the term of a 15 year note by some degree.
I wish to pay off my parents mortgage as I will be leaving my full-time job and using only 401K and pension as income, cutting my income by 50% and will get part-time work if and when necessary. Due to parents health issues I am unable to work full-time. I was considering paying off their mortgage as their residence is mine too and should something happen to my parent(s), on my limited income may not be able to meet the mortgage payment. I would use part of my 401K money to pay off mortgage. I just do not want to end up in a situation where I could lose the house. There are no siblings or relatives to consider, it is just me, mom and dad.
...and a few more questions: Do you have siblings? Is this considered a loan? If you proceed get everything down in writing and make sure you know the tax implications. (btw, I do not think that you can take any deductions if you are not one of the owners....but ask an attorney or accountant)
Before you take this step, please seek legal counsel. Questions that I have are: Why do you want to pay off their mortgage? Do you have unlimited funds to do so? Will your name be on the title? Are they transferring ownership to you? You really do need legal advice before you do anything rash. The results could impact both you and your parents. good luck
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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Unless the house will be a large financial asset for you and not a drain - think about upkeep, property taxes, maintenance - then you might want to find another solution. If it will soon need a new roof, if the basement has water problems, if the windows are old and drafty, if the porch is falling off.. it might be wiser to put it in your name somehow, sell it and use the proceeds to buy something newer, smaller and one that will last YOU for a long while.
You might also consider doing a life estate, also called deed of trust, with your parents. This means that they sign over their equity in the house to you and have the right to ownership as long as they live. Once they pass away, the ownership of the property goes to you. If there's a mortgage on the home then there are other concerns. it's best to seek legal counsel regarding that matter. What's a couple hundred dollars to get the right information and piece of mind?
In some states, the life estate means that, even if the parent gets medicaide and liens are placed on the property to recoup the states expenditures, the state can't fulfill the lien when the parent passes because the death means they no longer own the asset. If one parent needs medicaide for a nursing home and the other is able to live at home, the state will not place liens on the house because the spouse needs a home to live in. They state will also consider mortgage payments from their income to provide a home for the remaining spouse.
I hope you can find a solution that's best for you and your parents. Please, please consider ALL your options before quitting your job. Those 401(K) funds will be very dear to you later and using them up now should be your ABSOLUTE LAST resort.
1. All withdrawals from your 401k are going to be income taxable to you so you will suffer some unnecessary diminution of funds due to excess taxation (the withdrawal of a substantial sum will put you in a higher tax bracket making it even worse). And, you will not be getting a corresponding tax deduction (as noted).
2. What is the current value of the home? Most properties have fallen in value BELOW any possible resale price and it is unlikely home values will rise to any appreciable degree for the next 10 years or so. Is the house worth less than the balance on the mortgage?
3. The house is your residence, but it is their home. Will you be put on the deed? How will your interest be secured. If you do put money in the property make very sure you document everything! If the folks need to apply for Medicaid some day you will have to PROVE your contribution to prohibit Medicaid from considering the home all theirs.
4. If you needed to get money back out of the house it will cost money to do so.
5. I would suggest budgeting monthly withdrawals from your 401k to help pay the mortgage if there are problems now. Alternatively, you might want to consider a calculation using making a few extra payments a year. This can drop the term of a 30 year mortgage to about 18. It will also drop the term of a 15 year note by some degree.
If you proceed get everything down in writing and make sure you know the tax implications. (btw, I do not think that you can take any deductions if you are not one of the owners....but ask an attorney or accountant)
You really do need legal advice before you do anything rash. The results could impact both you and your parents.
good luck