So my mom is now in a nursing facility, and I'm told Medicaid will allow her $60 of her income per month for expenses, and the rest goes to the nursing home. Her current Medicaid has a monthly spend-down (her income is above the "allowed" income in our state).
I called the Medicaid Assistance Program and asked how that works considering she has other bills... like all of the hospital bills that will be coming down the line, her credit-card bill, etc. The person I talked to didn't really have an answer for me. If we're supposed to pay $X for the spend-down each month, but she is only given $60-- well below that spend-down amount-- how is that supposed to work? I can't exactly pay these for her.
She doesn't have that long left (a month or two), so soon enough it'll be a case of "I'm sorry, but she is deceased and has no assets to pay the debts" and in the meantime, it's not like I'm worried about her credit score if she doesn't pay, but... I'm not sure what we should do about these bills when they start coming in? Call the creditors and explain the situation? I don't fancy the conversation of "well we can maybe send you $15-$20 a month" nor "and soon you're going to be out of luck anyway"? Should I just ignore until she dies and then just let them know then that she's deceased?
I know there's nothing I can do, but there's something that bugs me about us sitting here racking up a bunch of bills we know will never get paid or just knowing her bills won't get paid. Especially things that were incurred before she was in hospice and such, like the credit card bills.
I am assuming Mom is not on Medicaid yet? You are in spend down?
By the time Mom can go on Medicaid she will only be allowed 2k and this is spent only on her if needed. Her SS and any pension will go towards her care. Medicaid provides health insurance that covers what Medicare doesn't. She will have Dental and vision too. So any health bills will be paid by Medicaid. Hospital bills prior will be paid by Medicare and her supplimental at the time. I held onto Moms supplimental until I was sure that all her previous bills had been covered then I stopped since she was on Medicaid.
The $60 is a Personal Need Acct (PNA). The 60 is taken from her SS for personal needs. Like a hair cut, snacks, clothing, etc. Its not for paying any prior bills. My Mother had a house that I had up for sale. Once on Medicaid, I paid no taxes or insurances. My nephew was living there so he paid the utilities. If he wasn't there, I would have shut off the utilities. Because, there was no money. I was not guaranteed that if I paid these expenses I would be able to be reimbursed. Being retired I couldn't afford not to get my money back.
You are just going to have to let the bills go. Someone on site has said do not contact the creditors. Once they get your info you will be harassed. You are not responsible for Moms debts. If you have POA freeze her accts so no one can use them but do not use your money.
I don't mind letting the bills go once she is gone, but I feel bad just leaving them while she is still alive and technically could pay on them if it weren't for the nursing home thing.
You are not responsible for her credit card or other debts. The people owed can come after the estate, but if there are no assets, her bills can’t be paid. When she passes, write to the companies and tell them she is deceased. You may want to check with an Elder Law Attorney to make certain you’re doing what you need to do.
Tough Times with little governmental help! Been there done that! Any bill incurred under your Mom’s name is her debt alone and will be retired with her passing. This includes credit cards, hospital any. I would contact them as they come in only to explain, as is fair You will probably find most just will ignore, and the bills will arrive and feel at this point you may ignore too! You did your part in advising them. Only one creditor attempted a second go around with us after she passed and that was American Express where she had a $4,000 debt incurred after hurricane Irma came through our state. Not frivolous, but survival stuff! They have an estate recovery team, nice huh! Mom was a widow on S.S. and the 7 years I cared for her we lived on this small stipend. Estate???? Be at peace, understanding no one wishes to be a dead beat! My goodness, her payment history to the end was awesome! Just another part of the tragedy we face as AD caregivers.
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