My husband has Lewy body dementia with Parkinson’s. He is mean and loud. He has only been in skilled nursing 1 week, but I fear they are going to ask me to remove him as they can’t handle him. They do not want to give him extra sedation, so this is what we get. Where does he go after this? Medicaid will not pay for a dementia facility and I can’t handle him alone. Any suggestions?
Contact the social worker at his facility and ask them to recommend a professional to perform the testing. We used a psychiatric service that worked in the AL where my LO was living.
A compassionate specialist prescribed gave advice to LO’S caregivers, and changes were made using medications that allowed LO to be more compliant and comfortable.
Your husband’s caregivers may be concerned about “sedation” because of his Parkinson’s, but many medications can be tried in very small doses.
”Mean” is hardly a reason for dismissal, but “loud” can be. Be sure the staff knows that you are working to find a solution.
For yourself, most newly placed residents demand to be taken “home”. You have NO REASON to feel “guilt” and your grief will ease as soon as you find some help with making him comfortable.
Please be sure you’re taking good care of yourself, as well as working to solve your husband’s issues.