Hello. I have been a live-in 24/7 caregiver to my sister's mother-in-law with dementia for 7 years. I have an oppurunity to move out and get my own place. Another sister has a apartment that she need to rent. She asked me because she knows this job has been so stressful and mentally exhausting, taking a toll on my health. She wants me to find peace and get some kind of life back. She would not charge me much. I would not have a job, but right now I believe for my sanity and health, it might be best to take a step back after I move to get myself back. It would be the best thing to take the apartment to get some kind of life back. The other thing is, I thought when I did move out here I would back out state I would be moving to is in the state I live in now, but maybe this could be a stepping stone, but it would be my place. The other thing is the daughter would have to place her mother and I know it would be hard for her. I have to think of myself and health so I am conflicted, but I know it the best for me to get out of this situation, because like I said, it's 24/7 and not much time off and it is taking a toll. It's not going to change and the lady getitng worse. Thank you. Sorry this is so long. I just need help in my decision.
Where you get off this train is up to you. Whether you stop full-time caregiving, move to one of a bigger team, become a wonderful visitor for this lady in a memory care facility, or even have no further contact - it is up to you.
But your sister's MIL will stay on the train. I'm sure you have made a wonderful travelling partner, but now she needs more than one to meet her increasing needs.
Kindly explain to her relative that an assessment of her needs is due as she needs more care. This is your gift to her. MORE care.
Then take your freedom & choose your next path. All the best for your own life journey.
If you just want to find another line of work, then give them all notice and move on. If you don't plan to look for work, you haven't created a better path for your future.