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I believe in my heart that you should leave and take care of yourself. You have taken care of this woman for 7 years and that is amazing if you think about it. You need to go and live your own life now. It is time for the family to do what is best for your patient. If she is getting more confused it would be easier for her to be placed in a memory care facility. You have been a wonderful person to give so much of your life for so long to the care of this elderly person. You need time to rest and plan the next phase of your life now. Please don't feel bad you have done so much and her family knows this true. Do it move and go on with your own life!
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KROGER123456 Oct 2020
Thank you For the kinds words And yes I have done alot for the family and put my life on hold Time to move on Get my life back Thank you for the support and encouragement
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Dementia is progressive. Like train journey but no getting off. Maybe short but often a long long ride. Unless something else comes along to derail (other illnesses, accident) it will always require more than one dedicated caregiver as some point along the journey.

Where you get off this train is up to you. Whether you stop full-time caregiving, move to one of a bigger team, become a wonderful visitor for this lady in a memory care facility, or even have no further contact - it is up to you.

But your sister's MIL will stay on the train. I'm sure you have made a wonderful travelling partner, but now she needs more than one to meet her increasing needs.

Kindly explain to her relative that an assessment of her needs is due as she needs more care. This is your gift to her. MORE care.

Then take your freedom & choose your next path. All the best for your own life journey.
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KROGER123456 Oct 2020
Thank you You are so right dementia is a journary never thought of like a train but so true Yes i beleive the lady does need more help and it will just progress it time for me to get off this train And start riding the freedom train That what i keep telling my self It good to get other opionon and support That have been through this Thank you for support encoragement
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Do it! No question about it.
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KROGER123456 Oct 2020
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If your sister won't charge much and you don't even have a job, you are still going to end up in a bad situation. Why not renegotiate with the family - specify days off per week and they hire someone else to fill those days. 24/7 is hard work and can take its' toll.

If you just want to find another line of work, then give them all notice and move on. If you don't plan to look for work, you haven't created a better path for your future.
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KROGER123456 Oct 2020
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Sounds like a good opportunity to step back. You have to care for your health and after all you have given 7 years of your life.
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KROGER123456 Oct 2020
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I think you've really already decided. Just need confirmation that it is a good decision. In my opinion, you've thought of a good plan. You need to get out and have a life of your own. Sister can make what ever plans are necessary. Not your responsibility now.
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KROGER123456 Oct 2020
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