My elderly mother is 81-years-old. She has been making up stories to caregivers, and friends. They are always about me but 100% not true. We live together. She says I called her a b*tch this morning, which I never said anything, I was in my room and the caregiver knows she’s making stories up. Caregiver took her to the Drs this morning and called ahead of time to let the staff know she’s hallucinating. When she gets there she acted on spot, so the dr told the caregiver she seemed fine. I have to deal with this on a daily basis. Then the caregiver took her to lunch and she was forgetting things. Caregiver is getting stressed from her behavior with me, and her when she lashes out at her. I’m afraid she’s going to quit, and I cannot deal with this without her. My sister is not involved, and very seldom visits so it’s just me.
Im afraid one day she’s going to tell her social worker things that aren’t true, and she’d believe her. I’m loving, caring, attentive to her needs but, of course she tells people I do nothing for her.
HELP! She has not been diagnosed with Dementia, or Alzheimer’s, and the Dr. thinks she fine because she acts that way in front of him.
Also notice at the top of the page is a heading called Care Topics. Look up hallucinations and delusions.
https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/what-to-know-about-confabulation
The polite, best manners reserved for strangers & people in authority.
In a quiet office, 1:1, concentration is held & a person can be at their cognitive best.
"Yes Doctor, I am well. Thank you."
But family see the real deal.
Family (& well known caregivers) take the brunt of the daily frustrations, anger, fear, pain.
Document whatever you can. Make videos that show her abuse against you. Some elderly mothers end up lying and calling the police on their sweet, innocent daughters. Have the proof, documentation, ready so you can show it’s she who abuses you and lies.