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We used to sing a little ‘grace’ song in my childhood. It went ‘Thank you for the food we eat, Thank you for the world so sweet, Thank you for the birds that sing, Thank you God for everything’.
You could try singing it with her, and then asking her about one of the things – like what birds have either of you seen, which birds you particularly like. It might be one way to divert - even if a little bit of you thinks ‘Thank you for the pigs that fly’. Have courage! Old age is a real challenge to patience and a sense of humour.
Like Frazzle said, some people are like that and if they have Dementia, you will not get thru to them. Of course, depression is common especially early stages when they know something isn't right. You can't say, well there are worst things because I think this is the worst thing a person can have...losing their mind and who they r.
I have a friend who has been negative all her life. Nothing is her fault its everyone elses. Now she is 69 with diabetes, heart problems and now Parkinson's don't think she will ever see the bright side.
All you can do is try but don't get discouraged if ur efforts don't get results.
With some, you can't, but you can point out the positive to them even despite the negativity. And if it gets to be too much, take a break from it for a little while, if your LO lives with you, and/or if LO is in AL or NH, you can end the visit or call if it gets to be too much.
My mom will find the negative in any situation. I think even if she won a million dollars, she would find something wrong with it! Lol. She has always been that way, but I know her illness (mental illness and dementia) makes her miserable a lot of the time now too. I do try and stay positive and point out the good things, or like for example if she says the meal at her facility was crap, or an outing wasn't fun, I say, "Well, maybe the next one will be better," that type of thing. Sometimes I do though have to tell her I have to go when it gets to be too much, as the negativity can be really draining.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
You could try singing it with her, and then asking her about one of the things – like what birds have either of you seen, which birds you particularly like. It might be one way to divert - even if a little bit of you thinks ‘Thank you for the pigs that fly’. Have courage! Old age is a real challenge to patience and a sense of humour.
I have a friend who has been negative all her life. Nothing is her fault its everyone elses. Now she is 69 with diabetes, heart problems and now Parkinson's don't think she will ever see the bright side.
All you can do is try but don't get discouraged if ur efforts don't get results.
My mom will find the negative in any situation. I think even if she won a million dollars, she would find something wrong with it! Lol. She has always been that way, but I know her illness (mental illness and dementia) makes her miserable a lot of the time now too. I do try and stay positive and point out the good things, or like for example if she says the meal at her facility was crap, or an outing wasn't fun, I say, "Well, maybe the next one will be better," that type of thing. Sometimes I do though have to tell her I have to go when it gets to be too much, as the negativity can be really draining.