She needs just a few things and is fairly independent. Light house work light cooking and a reminder to take meds and take a shower. She has early onset dementia. Very pleasant woman and likes to watch game shows all day.
The home is in West Haven, CT. Nice home quiet neighborhood off street parking. All utilities included.
But in either case, if the idea is that your friend will avoid paying wages for care services, I'm afraid it's probably a non-starter.
Given cost of living in your state, I think memory care is what 12 to 15k per month?
Yea, what was that?
You mean I am an unpaid slave or an indentured servant?
You may not realize but the wording of your post is as offensive as my reply.
What you are looking for is probably not going to happen, there is a lack of caregivers and anyone worth having around is not going to barter rent for services provided.
You and your friend should look at how much she can afford to pay on top of offering room and board as part of the compensation. Everything you list is what an assisted living facility provides and they can cost as much as 8k a month.
This is a terrible situation to be in but you are dealing with a vulnerable adult, that has a broken brain that is only going to need more and more care. While she is still able to understand what is going on, your friend should look into continuing care facilities and get mom set up while she can still make connections and feel like it is her home. It gets harder to implement change as the dementia progresses. Do her a favor and get her settled now.
Where I live house cleaners are paid at at least $25.00 per hour if they are independent contractors. Personal Care Aids are paid more than that. Those who administer medication are paid even more.
Who is going to pay the health insurance for the employee? Who will pay the employer share benefits? Who will pay vacation pay? What will the employee live on? How will income tax be calculated and how can a person pay tax on a taxable benefit, if they receive no pay?
Oh and 'including' utilities is a benefit? How is the person supposed to afford vehicle expenses if they are not being paid a fair wage, so they can take advantage of the "off street parking"?
"...83 years old, living at home with age-related decline, anxiety, arthritis, depression, hearing loss, incontinence, mobility problems, and sleep disorder."
Chuckle. The OP has got to be kidding, right?
Why are you doing this for a friend? Let the friend do the looking for herself. And you should know that FREE RENT isn't suitable pay for caregiving an elder with dementia.