My mom has dementia, early stage but I am learning that her mind will never go where I want it to anymore.
The problem is that she was an impatient and not a very warm person in my growing up years. When I was an adult she seemed to undermine everything I did. I was always trying to be "good enough" in her eyes.
Well now she has dementia, she acts the same way towards me (not really a surprise) but I am getting impatient with this. I am "setting my boundaries" as an adult but am realizing that she no longer is able to understand this.
I ask her not to do something, tease the dog for instance. 15 minutes later, with the dog snarling at her, I once again ask her not to tease the dog and explain the danger. An hour later she is teasing the dog. She does not remember any of the previous conversations.
The issue being that she really does not remember previous conversations.
Anyone have ideas?? I feel like such an awful daughter.
Barb
room. lol. We can only do so much, I had to smile about the dog deal, my mom feeds my dog everything she eats.......DRIVES ME CRAZY, I cant get mad at the dog, but he will vomit and it is so frustrating. I am a professional butt wiper vomit picker upper. Find you a safe place and you will be fine. I have been called a bitch at 5:00 am. lol, I just tell her the apple did not fall far from the tree. Peace be with you
Try to get as much free time away from her as possible.
This is an evil disease and she isn't doing it on purpose.
That being said I had an argument with my Mom yesterday and I knew the fall out was coming.. Right now she's in bed whining "why am I still alive, why doesn't God take me, I'm of no use to anyone"! I said so you can spend more time with me". Her answer was' "ya right"! I walk away and now she just feeling sorry for herself. I do the best I can, but I'm tired of being dragged don't with her.. Let's hope she bounces back at breakfast time. She will! Pill time has become very important to her!! Lol