I had my sister move in with me because she is disabled and needs help. She wants to pay me for all the things I do for her, which, now I realize is a lot. I don’t have a life anymore, I am beginning to feel like I am 87 and I am 70. With absolutely no help from her children, what should she pay me? Honestly, I don’t want her money, I want her happiness. But I have given up my happiness and independence and feel slowed down to her age and disability. So, to answer her question of how much she should pay me, what would that be? What would a caregiver/cook/housekeeper ask for? This is a 24/7 issue. No help from her children whatsoever! Thank you
I think that you should help her spend ALL of her money on her care, her kids don't deserve a penny from her.
Figure out what she has and use the balance monthly, after she pays her fair share to you for living expenses, to hire aids to come in and give you a break. If she can afford it, hire a housekeeper as well, nothing wrong with her paying to have necessary work done.
Best of luck getting this dealt with and finding a way for you to have fulfillment for your well being.