As some of you know, I've been having a hard time managing my grandma's health since she started to decline the beginning of January. Normally even on her bad days, she still can talk and not stop talking. She's one of those people where you will stand there for a hour trying to get 1 word in. The past 2 days though, I don't think she's said 10 words. She just lays in bed all day. This morning she threw up, and instead of telling me so I can clean her up and change her bed sheets, she told me she didn't care. She'd rather lay in her puke, than have to get up because she "wasn't up to trying to get up". She is sleeping 20+ hours a day, except when she goes through these episodes where she gets so confused and scared that she forces herself to stay awake for days. She's eating more than she used to, but that's because of an appetite stimulant they put her on. Even with it though, she can't even finish a pudding or fruit cup. We get her those Fruties to go by beech nut, and she can't finish on of them. She's having more trouble swallowing than normal, also. Is becoming withdrawn normal though? I don't know if it's because she's 91, or due to her Alzheimer's and health problems.
I'm not sure what to put this under, so I'm just going with Emotional Wellbeing.
Best guess is she needs an anti-anxiety mediation. But you need to make that call.
What do you mean by Homecare? Do mean Hospice which is ordered by her doctor? Is she being seen by a registered nurse every week? This is what happens under hospice care. If she isn't on hospice care then you need to contact the doctor to get her evaluated for this - unless you're wanting all aggressive measures to keep her alive.
One day I went to my Dad and found him sitting in the dark, watching the TV that wasn't on. He hadn't eaten because he didn't know what he wanted to eat.
I knew the time had come to make him leave his home and come live by me. Fortunately we were able to put a mobile home in our front yard and although it took a few months, he did recover and start eating again.
If HomeHealth won't help, it might be time to call in Hospice to have her evaluated. I did that with Dad at the end.
My heart goes out to you. I recently was concerned about my DH for similar reasons but Zoloft and some HealthFood Suppliments pulled him out of his funk.
If you're interested, the whole story is here
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/exhausted-all-options-dont-know-how-much-longer-i-can-handle-being-caregiver-427160.htm