We had a dysfunctional childhood, & mother went into rages, (chased me down & choked me when I couldn't get away). I was constantly afraid & angry, so I avoided her a lot by staying with friends. Nobody is left to visit her (in assisted living) but me & it's been awful. I was on medication just to cope, but I feel better without it, (except that means I can't tolerate visiting her anymore because of the panic I get). I'm unable to discuss this with her, & I can't afford a therapist unless I use her money. (I have power of attorney but I feel that using her money for my therapist may be dishonest). Please give your opinions.
its a game are they insane or needy or controlling???she my,aunt is super needy and has acted out also underlying alcoholic...she has produced preety successful
children one being a Priest......they have developed this dysfunctional way of
communicating...…...which ironically has produced super salespeople...…..
everybody has secrets in their family...….if you are rude,bullying to your children
it will come back to bite you.
communicating but I do not think as they have their mother in a assisted living
now ……….she continues to run the show...….so don't take abuse......
communicating whilst trying to appear Christian...…….
While I hate to suggest this - stop visiting your mother if it causes you this much grief. The people in charge can still reach you by telephone so really, they cannot insist you visit.
I'm really sorry you had this terrible a childhood. Home is supposed to be a safe haven where you are protected by your parents, not abused by them.
I believe in 2nd chances and beyond yet keep in mind when taking breaks from an unhealthy situation is important.
I agree with visits in a common area and limited to monthly or whatever you feel. You could call and ask how she is also. So sorry for you having this painful situation.