I am on the verge of a breakdown .I have been caring for my mother for 5 years by myself now and she was just recently released from the hospital. She came home much weaker and with more ailments (Diabetes, very high blood pressure, and COPD). No one will help me not even my own brother. My son verbally abuses me when I mention placing her in a rehab to gain her strength back but he puts a guilt trip on me about her always taking care of me and him (my son). I have anxiety and major clinical depression and am on the verge of a mental breakdown. I can't focus on anything because I can't stop crying and feeling depressed. I am 63, have health issues as well and am just not as strong physically as I once was. Also, I have been out of the workforce and have lost a lot of knowledge of current technological advancements and my age is a factor as well. I am not sure I will be even able to work once my mother passes. Her home is in reverse mortgage so their is no family inheritance, which is okay. I am more concerned that my mental stability is breaking down and I am going to end up in a hospital myself. My son and his girlfriend and baby live here but they are always fighting. He curses me and tells me I am a terrible daughter for wanting to take her away from her home. I just want to leave for a few days until I can get back my health and thoughts about what I should do. Any advice?
It is NOT selfish to want to take care of your own mental and physical health. It's absolutely your right and necessary! Get your mom into rehab, kick out the son and wife and reclaim your OWN life. You deserve your own health and happiness. A very critical son and very ill mom are too much for you to handle on your own. Get the help you need! {{Hugs}}
And if your son doesn't like it that's just too bad.