My 75 yrs old Mother had a heart attack and 2 stokes in Aug. 2011. She stayed 1 month in the hospital, and 6 months in a nursing home doing rehab. She has been diagnose with dementia. She gets around mostly in a wheel chair she can manage a walker in small areas. She is refusing to stay in a nursing center. She wants to go home. She sayes she is going at the end of Feb. 2012 even if the Dr doesn't release her. My Mother is very stubborn, how she has always got her way in life is to wear people down till they give in. My 2 sister and 1 brother and my self have refused to take her home from the nursing center. The nursing center said that if she leaves without the Dr. ok that she can not have home health aid come in to help. Our problem as far as her going home is that home health aid only does 2 hours a day 4 days a week. So that leaves a good 20 hrs that Mom will be there by her self. There will be no one to give her her medicine, she is on 4 heart med. for blood pressure and cumin which has to be tested weekly. Not including the 7 others I can't spell. My Mother has decided that she doesn't need to wear depends. So you know what that means. My brother doesn't live here and me and 1 sister work full time and wouldn't be able to do any help until after 6 in the evening. That is when we are usally home cooking dinner and taking care of our family. So that leave 1 sister whos schedule is more free and her husband work 4 weeks out of town and 1 week home. She leaves alot to go stay with him. I just feel like the nursing home is dropping the ball. Shouldn't they know how to deal with people like her. Instead their trying to get us to take home a person that can't take care of her self.
I'm glad that taking care of your grandmother has worked out for you. But there are many other options that can work well for others.
You unkind words and self righteousness serves no purpose.
Mamanik: We can look after our relatives without having them live with us. It sounds like your Grandmother was in a terrible place and I commend you for taking her in and improving her life. It's not your place, however, to kick everyone else to the curb with you biblical interpretations. Helping our families or others in need is God's work, but it can be done in many fashions.
While I understand that is what fuels your venting post, it comes across as a self-righteous ranting rage against anyone who has their loved one in a nursing home.
This is a site where people seek to be supportive of one another, but not spewing such verbal judgment upon them.
I am not accepting your words of judgement and shame. You can keep them.
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