Mom made the decision to leave today, I have to pick her up soon, and firstly the staff had no idea she was leaving, and secondly once they were told they treated me with quite the attitude. At this rate I'm over it so go ahead and have all the attitude they want.
They mentioned medicare might not pay for a readmission, and all that but is there anything else I should be prepared for? Other than my nerves to be completely done. I know she's going to think I'm the caregiver now, but that is not happening.
This is going to be a day.
Nursing home have their own best interests at heart, and what their interested in is the dollar sign. First, last, and always.
Your focus should be on what's in place of the NH care. If mom doesn't have a care manager, now would be a really, really good time.
Take the scenic route home💐🙏🏾💚
You may have claimed "unsafe discharge" if Moms considered 24/7 care. That you are unable and unwilling to care for her. Even, her home is unsafe.
Keep us posted.
That's true the facility she was in can refuse to take her back, but they very rarely do.
What's nearest and dearest to the heart of any nursing home is the dollar sign. They don't let money pass them over.
Everyone gets up to 100 days a year nursing home care paid for by Medicare. If It's deemed medically necessary. If your mom has days left on Medicare and the doctor says it's necessary for her to go to a nursing home those days will be used as long as it's medically necessary.
If she has to go to the hospital and is admitted for three days or more and moved to a nursing home, Medicare will use the whatever is left of the 100 days too. The nursing home is copping an attitude with you because they want your mom to stay in there. Once the Medicare billing runs out, she has to start being paid for in cash every month, they start billing it to a long-term care policy if she has one, or if she's on Medicaid they start paying. Nursing homes never want to let someone go if they are soon to be paying in cash or through an insurance.
I sure hope for your sake you've told mom ahead of time that you have no intention of becoming her caregiver. God help you if she doesn't know you refuse.
The SNF told me about the whole "medicare won't pay if she has to be readmitted," kind of thing and I told them, "really, that's not what THEY said." Crickets. Like you're gonna pass up medicare money, and my mom's secondary insurance. She is a signed check wherever she goes...
She did get a little quiet when I told her that people will be coming in and looking after things, and how glad I was to be able to get that kind of help that "I can no longer really do for you," like it was sinking in, and then I told her to have a good day and left. I came home and crashed on the sofa. I need space and time. A lot of it.
Hopedly, you'll be able to take the time to rest and relax, and the caregivers coming in will be accepted by your mother.