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So here is my question. I have been paying an in-home health company $17 an hour to bring aides into my mother's home to care for her about 40 hours a week while I go to work. I am trying to keep my mother out of nursing home as long as possible.

I have been really underwhelmed with the level of care the aides have been providing for the last 6 months or so, and it has me wondering...can I legally pay myself a similar hourly wage or salary out of my mother's own money WITHOUT it affecting her ability to go into a nursing home via Medicaid should she need to enter one in the next year or two?

I have been caring for my mother for almost 9 years and have never paid myself one cent. Just wondering what my options are.

Thanks all and happy Saturday to you.

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You can't back pay yourself, of that I'm sure. I seriously doubt you can pay yourself anywhere near $17 an hour. Check it out in your state as FreqFlyer suggests. And when you put together the care agreement, which you must have, be aware you must report the income, and mom must pay Social Security and Medicare taxes on your behalf. You'll pay those taxes as well.
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sahk1942, please note that each and every State has their own rules, regulations, and programs when it comes to Medicaid. Your best bet is to call your State off of Medicaid and ask that question.

If the answer is "yes", then you would need to put together an employment agreement, a sample of one is linked below. And keep notes of all the funds that are being used for your Mom's care, where Mom is doing the paying or reimbursing you.

https://www.agingcare.com/documents/personal_care_agreement_AgingCare.pdf
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$17 per hour x 40hrs per week in her home care = approx $2720 per month. If you have POA, you may be paying this out of her private money somehow (soc security, pension, IRA, brokerage). I am not seeing how she is going to qualify for Medicaid if that is her home she owns and you have this much money to work with. Is the situation different from that? The details make so much difference in every case. By the way, this amount per month is a bargain.
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Does your mother have an attorney that would negotiate a care agreement with you? A Geriatric Care Manager may also be permitted to assist with determining the level if care and appropriate rate of pay. You cannot negotiate with yourself. Do you have siblings? They may have a problem with this. In my state Medicaid permits payment to a family member at wages similar to what the care would cost from agencies in my area about $20.00/hour. Rates for care must be checked with three agencies. Before you receive a dime, the care agrement must be in place, and all applicable taxes, including Medicare, unemployment and disability must also be paid.

Another option may be the home. Does she own her home? Or is she stayingin yours? In some states Medicaid permits transferring the home to a child caregiver if that child provides medically necessary care for a period of two years prior to entering a nursing home. Assisted living or memory care do not qualify for that exemption.

See an attorney that is licensed by NAELA (National Association of Elder Law Attorneys) for assistance with this to ensure you mother's Medicaid eligibility will not be effected. Money well spent!
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One additional comment. If this is a 40 hour a week job for you, you are very fortunate! I was 24/7 caregiver for mom, she did attend daycare monday through friday, about 25 hours a week. I got about five hours of sleep each night and had an agency caregiver for eight hours on Saturday. So my work week was about 100 hours! And make sure you budget in some time each week, eight hours one day, you will need time for you!
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Oh my! I can see why your name is "glad I'm here"....I don't even know how people survive this.
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I was not implying that I was paid that amount. Simply that is what Medicaid would permit. I'm sure there are not many family caregivers that are paid anywhere close to that! What happened in my family with siblings was unbelieveable, vindictive and just plain hateful. I provided care for Mom and her hubby for four very difficult and trying years.
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Definitely be careful investigating the pay issue. In one circumstance after mother was hospitalized, I was told by her therapists that if I took some training classes, I would be able to qualify to be paid as one of her caregivers. Great, I thought! However, in my state, mother would have to be put on Medicaid first. She won't do that. Even then, you have to navigate carefully so that you do not upset the possibility of state payment if she ever needs a nursing home.

When papers were drawn up for mother's house to be put in other's names the attorney kept trying to steer the family into putting me as her caregiver so that the house would not be taken if mom would go into a home - as I would be the adult child who still needs a home etc. Family did not like that idea, because it would allow me something and maybe not them. In the end, the house does not have my name anywhere on it. However, if she goes into a nursing home within 5 years of signing such paperwork, the state can say, "you were just trying to keep from paying us - give us the value of her care in the home out of the value of that house - then you can keep what's leftover if anything is leftover...."

So be careful how you tread. Check with multiple people in agencies and also an attorney to make sure that HOW you set up payment to yourself doesn't ruin something else un-be-knownst to you.

Good luck.
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PS For the record, I couldn't care less if I get any money out of mother's estate at all. I never expected anything anyway. I just don't want her care to be compromised. My family on the other hand will fight tooth and nail to make her stay OUT of a nursing home so that there is a house and money left for them in the end. Nice people, huh?
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DeiGratia...thank you very, very much for your insight. I understand about family members getting GREEDY when it comes to my mother's assets. They don't talk or visit with her for years but when it comes time to discuss who the house would go to after she passes away, they show their true colors. (And by the way...I am the one who has taken care of my mother daily for almost 9 years, not to mention that I personally took out the loan to fix up her home because it was in disrepair when she had her strokes and her credit was terrible so she couldn't take out the loan herself.)

But anyway...that is a whole different story for a different day...

Family members...unfortunately you don't get to pick 'em!

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