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I live in TN and my 87 yo mom lives in Florida (by choice). Its challenging, and the fact I am an only child adds to that. Would love to compare notes with other people in my position.
i'm afraid I can't offer any advice. I am the care taker of my cousin, who resides in a Memory Care Unit in another county. It's a huge responsibility and takes a lot of time. I can't imagine doing it from another state.Are you her POA?
Perhaps some who share the same situation will respond. I'm sure you are not alone. It may be slow around here due to the holiday though.
Hi HH - I am in Canada and a 5 hour drive from my mother. I have POA financial and health. I have a sister but she causes trouble rather than helping so is an added liability. Mother was in her own apartment until she was about 96, with a live in 24/7 senior nanny the last 9 months, then we moved her to an ALF (assisted living), then 6 months later to another ALF, and after about 2 years there throubles increased and eventually she was t into a geriatric sychiatr
oops - geriatric psychiatric hospital where she is now and on the meds she needs and will be moved shortly to a facility with a mental heath mandate. When se was 96 she was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, she is narcissistic, and then developed paranoia and has been diagnosed now with vascular dementia. Physically she is very healthy for a 102 year old.
Caregiving at a distance has its own disadvantages but, frankly, with my mother's mental health problems, I don't want to be too close and need to establish and maintain firm boundaries. I have developed good relationships with the staff where she lives which helps.
There are a few people on this site who are distance caregivers. I hope some others respond.
Happy thanksgiving and do something good for you. Number one for the caregiver - look after yourself.
I am 1500 miles from mother. She is in a NH. But, there is a grandson, within 90 miles. He is POA. I have little to no contact with Mother, due to her hearing loss.
Hhandbasket, the key word in your post was *choice*. Your Mom choose to live in Florida, was it because that is what elders are suppose to do? Or is there family or close friends who also live in Florida?
Freqflyer - she moved back to where she lived before she came to TN. Didn't like TN at all, and didn't like being with "all those old people" in her independent living community... She does have some friends down there but not many given their age, a great woman who cleans for her and helps her and her handyman and family.
I am a state away from mom (about 75 miles), but brother is 10 minutes away. When she had a stroke and needed more than Independent Living, we decided she had to live in close proximity to one of us in case of emergencies or hospitalizations. But mom gets that we have to live our lives and that we have to make certain decisions in order to get her the best care.
In another part of the family, parents moved from the Midwest to Florida, just as my uncle began to develop dementia. When it became clear that things had gotten out of hand (my demented uncle was beating up my aunt to get the key so he could wander) my cousins hired a geriatric care manager (with their parents' funds, of course) to be the local eyes, ears and hands. It's something you might consider.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Perhaps some who share the same situation will respond. I'm sure you are not alone. It may be slow around here due to the holiday though.
Caregiving at a distance has its own disadvantages but, frankly, with my mother's mental health problems, I don't want to be too close and need to establish and maintain firm boundaries. I have developed good relationships with the staff where she lives which helps.
There are a few people on this site who are distance caregivers. I hope some others respond.
Happy thanksgiving and do something good for you. Number one for the caregiver - look after yourself.
In another part of the family, parents moved from the Midwest to Florida, just as my uncle began to develop dementia. When it became clear that things had gotten out of hand (my demented uncle was beating up my aunt to get the key so he could wander) my cousins hired a geriatric care manager (with their parents' funds, of course) to be the local eyes, ears and hands. It's something you might consider.