My DH, no cognitive issues, had a uretal stent placed last week after surgery to get out a kidney stone. Given antibiotics and some other meds to take. Needs another surgery in a couple of weks to get out second stone.
Just told me he's having trouble peeing. Running 101.4 temp. Stopped taking antibiotics 3 days ago. Because? He knows better?
He called his doc's office and they told him to go to the ER. I said "that's nice". He says he'll go in the AM.
I am not gonna turn into a nursemaid for this 65 year old competent human being. If he wants to have some sort of quality of life, he can take care of himself.
I've been down that kidney stone route for myself as the patient, no joy ride. In fact, I even wound up in the ER with an urinary tract infection after the surgery was done. And here I was following the doctor's orders line by line.
I know you won't get much sleep tonight as we are geared to worried about things like this. If only your hubby would have taken those antibiotics. What is hubby doing about the fever? Ignoring it?
In my household, my sig-other is the opposite, he is a text-book hypochondriac. Drives me nuts. So I don't know which is worse.
Hope hubby passes that next kidney stone and doesn't need the surgery.
In the mean time, count to ten.
I have a good friend whose husband was terribly injured in a bike accident. In a body cast for 6 months. Told to ride his bike ONLY in the park thereafter.
He went out on the road. Skidded. Fell. Needed hip replacement. When the EMTs called her she said, "have the hospital call me when they are discharging him. I'll send a cab."
I'm channeling her right now. He needs to learn that his choices have consequences.
Hugs.
When my husband wants to refuse medical intervention....
I tell him one of two things....
Either....
If you are going to continue behaving this stupidly, I think we should triple your life insurance....
Or....
You know when you refuse to take/do something that could make you feel better.... You start to look less intelligent to me.
I sincerely hope one of those made you giggle.
Men.
Can't live with them.
Can't shoot them.
Hugs.
Sparkles
Mine left hospital after hernia day surgery. Advice given to NOT eat too much afterwards & take TWO strong pain meds. After a FULL dinner & NO meds, while vomiting & crawling on all fours down the hallway writhing in pain, I asked if he need would like the pain killers now?
"I'll take half of one".
Breathe deeply, do something to take your mind off it. Deal with calls from hospital as you need to.
Your friend with the bike story! Wow! Lol I will remeber that one.
He has a raging UTI and now has a new script, which was mistakenly sent to hospital pharmacy in the middle of the night. Just made 4 phone calls to get that corrected. Will go and pick up script when it's ready in 30 minutes or so.
I could kill him. Such unnecessary drama and danger to his health, his artificial valve; risk of antibiotic resistant infections, etc.
He said "the nurse in the ER yelled at me for not taking my meds". (Such a good thing!).