I just heard that my LO, unprovoked, struck (with an object) a co-resident in her Memory Care facility, which then had to report the incident to the State (California). There was an earlier incident about 6 months ago, though provoked, and I don't believe that first one was reported. If this behavior continues, does anyone have experience with what could happen next? I can ask the MC facility (a very good place --so far), but wanted to hear from others, too. I fear she could be kicked out. If that happens, where could she go with that on her record?
She is probably in late stages-does not talk much now. Crying resumed after the move and sis was uncontrollable for days on end. Meds have been changed again-now has a horrible rash from one or both of the new drugs that she is taking.
It was difficult when sis was out of state-she cried and cried every time on the phone and I could not do anything to help her. I think the staff there was doing okay but when I asked about what they saw or did the reply was sis is doing fine-when i knew she wasn't.
As you are talking on a long distance move you have many factors to consider along with possible exposure to covid during a road trip in the RV. Are you worried about being able to care for dad on the road, anger, wanting to escape, bathroom issues, having enough of his meds to make the trip.
Current facility says if sis needed to go to the hospital for some reason, the return to facility would involve 2 week isolation-would probably be the same for your dad moving into a new facility. I would probably move, maybe a few months from now if covid is less??? of a concern, get settled, find out what the rules would be for dad at the new community admission-isolation etc. how long. visits with family. So you know what to expect. You will probably be more comfortable with dad close by-I have had it both ways and closer is better-not necessarily easier with the problems my sister has but at least she can see me, we talk, i think she knows i care even if she cant say so.
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Yes, you may want to discuss with LOs doctor a med to help calm her/him.
My loved one was in a Memory Care unit for a month. He was never given a 30 day notice.
My family member was discharged to the ER for evaluation. There was never an arrangement made for a new facility for him.