I had my father in a nursing home in NJ, started as Medicare for 1st and most of the 2nd month. He was then Medicaid pending. After not being shown any prices in writing or signing any admission paperwork in the beginning, when he became Medicaid pending, they asked for more than my father's monthly income. They said this was payment for the remainder of the 2nd month of Medicare (only @ 2 wks.). After complaining and thinking this was too much for them to collect, they tried to make me sign a letter saying I will be responsible to pay. I refused to sign anything, so they told us my father will be discharged. I agreed to take him out. They then asked me if I was willing to work something out. They came up with a figure for us to pay monthly out of his bank account. I still never signed anything, but continued to keep my father there, and paid them (in advance every month) the amount they gave. Now, after receiving approval for Medicaid, the NH found out the figure which should be made available to them. They are now trying to bill me @ $20,000 for retroactive payment (saying I am responsible) and they will "go after" me for that money. I feel they can't do this since they gave me this figure to pay, and I made the payments promptly. I never signed anything, and the Administrator is screaming, harassing and threatening me, and even made it very difficult for us to get admitted to another NH, even though they said he was "discharged". Having had many complaints about them from the beginning, (one time a nurse threatened to "take me out into the parking lot" after I spoke up to her for yelling at my father), I feel as though this nursing home is not deserving of any of this money, they made our lives miserable. I finally just got my father out of there, and have a very bad feeling about how they will try to "go after" me. I don't trust them, and feel they will try to jeopardize our Medicaid renewals somehow. I need to get details of what is needed in NJ to renew after six months, what they ask for, and what they will be looking at. Please comment. Thanks.