She gets bored and loses interests. She likes music but, she wants more to do. We can only fold so many clothes. Her lack of vision has always been disturbing to her. She's never fully accepted her situation. We don't have a car. She's not in shape to take a bus. Trying to develop a routine. My mom can't differentiate night from day. Very impatient but still smart and sharped tongued, dementia and all.
The hard part is helping seniors not feel self conscious about their disability...otherwise they become more and more isolated from others and that just increases the loneliness and adds to the dementia.
The Alzheimers foundation in our area has a variety of CAFE activities where patients and their caregivers can attend together (one happens at the local art museum) and enjoy each others company in a community setting. I would see what they have going on in your area...and then look at who could provide transportation (perhaps someone else who is attending with their parent).
Please think about the "telling their stories" and recording them with for grandchildren or the local history folks...we should not lose these stories...
Sometimes we select words such as independence, or others, and see how many 4 letter or more words we can derive from the word. Also, interactive game shows help -Price Is Right, Wheel of Fortune [she sits about 1' from the TV to see the large letters] and Family Feud enable her to participate and try to guess the answers.
Currently, i got the supples for her to start flowers and veggies from seed in the little pots, which i'll transplant outdoors when the climate permits. She loves watching and nurturing the little seedlings along and seeing their growth. i've added a batch of marigolds, too ~ every year we use them to keep aphids, cutworms and some critters away from both roses and veggie plants. We 'frame' the veggie garden with them - preying insects don't like the smell nor the taste of the natural pyrethrin agents in the marigolds. i've planted tulip bulbs in an indoor pot and they are just now about 4" tall. [To force tulips, they only need about 6 weeks in the fridge to simulate winter, and then it's okay to plant them in or outdoors. They need the dormancy in the cold to enable them to bloom. That's one of the myriad of lessons God and nature teaches: even the worst circumstances will oftentimes yield beautiful blessings in abundance. Perhaps your Mom would like a little herb or pot garden ~ window sills are ideal for herbs ~ and quite handy if you like to cook. The grooming [snipping off what you need for a recipe] only encourages more growth. Indoor gardening is easy ~ and if you'd not prefer to venture outdoors with the project, perhaps there's a sunny spot for a "patio tomato" or such to grow indoors. Geraniums grow quite well, even indoors, but they love sunlight, and don't require constant care. i find the colors, liveliness of a garden and smell of freshly cut lawn ~ even if viewed/smelled through a window, can really lift the spirits. The chirp of birds is always a musical interlude to the respite. We've been blessed with a gift Dad gave Mom on their 50th wedding anniversary ~ a sunroom [all glass]. But a porch or patio would be suitable as well. The sun offers more than vitamin D ~ it's a spiritual retreat, in my book.
@ glasshalfull ~ grand idea to have a journal to capture the stories, or in the stead, perhaps a recorder that the person can use when the thought to speak their thoughts, reminiscences, unprompted, would work quite well. Take lots of pictures ~ we get so busy and exhausted, but the little moments will be the most remembered and endearing. Puts a bit of joy into the day, too ... perhaps there are some hats, etc., lying around ~ selfies might provide that instant laughter that sometimes gets lost at the tick of a clock, or turn of the calendar page as time and exhaustion creep into our own self-images.
i love the sharing of new ideas. Thank you all for 'being here' and i'm grateful for the opportunity to learn from each one of you.