My mom has outlived her money so I have been putting anywhere from 500 to 1000 in her account until it has drained our savings. My partner has agreed to care for her during the day but she is not happy unless she has someone there talking to her all day. My mom still understands finances but for some reason will not accept we have done all we can for her and cannot hire a "rent a friend".
Many states will cover an ALF on a Medicaid Waiver. Look into that, because partner is giving too much to the equation here.
Pam's got the answer. If you and your partner don't begin to distance yourselves from what will surely be a bottomless pit of care giving (as it has been with my own mom), a post talking about trouble between you and your partner is not far behind. ;)
I am sorry she has this, and is so young. Which means that you are young, too.