When every time I do my mother gets upset about being home by herself. What do I do? Its just me and my mom living together so when I need to go out she's home alone. When I get back home she's crying about being home all day by her self. But yet I can't get her to go anywhere with me, because I have to push her in a wheelchair. My mom had 3 strokes. I just need someone to talk to every now and then to keep me going.
But I agree with what others here have said. You have a RIGHT to get time away from your mom, whether she gets fussed up about it or not. Do you get everything you want in life? Probably not. None of us do. Your mom wants you to stay home with her all of the time. Sorry, that's not possible or good for you.
When you were a child and you didn't want your mom to go to the store, would she have said, "OK" and just stayed home with you? I don't think so. Either get someone to come in and sit with mom, take her out with you on occasion or go on your own. You don't have to be with her 24/7. You have an absolute right to have time away from mom for your own mental health.
She has the right to get upset and fuss. She deserves to have you show you care and fuss over her when you get home, but you don't need to feel guilty.
(Ha! We live and breathe with guilt!)
You do need to get away. Can she afford a companion once or twice a week? She may not like it, but she may really enjoy a new face.
Being her caregiver doesn't mean you will never allow her to be upset.
Is there a local senior center that your Mom might like to visit, some have one day a week where they offer a free movie.... where you can drop her off, get her settled, and pick her up later? She can make new friends if she wishes, and get to look forward to going. It all depends on her personality if she would like that.... I know my Mom wouldn't, but Dad would go in a heart beat.
You definitely need time to yourself.. Good luck..