My mother refuses, we're practically estranged, her dementia is progressing. We've been in the position of waiting for a crisis in order to finally move her, but I'm now re-considering the possibility of telling her a story (lie) in order to move her sooner. Probably something about home improvements needing to be done.
Have you done this? How did it go, for you and your parent/relative?
Lies won't work, the ALF interviews and evaluates the prospective resident to determine their willingness to make the move. She is considered competent to decide where she lives, until the Judge says she is not.
Without Guardianship, you have to wait until the patient has a fall or serious health issue, lands in the hospital and the MD, Social Worker and Discharge Coordinator agree she can't go home and you say you can't take care of her any more.