Dad still lives independently. He does pretty well, but we discovered last year that he is completely confused by doctor visits - he says "yes, doctor" and gets his scripts filed, and scheduled follow up visits, all without having any idea what they're treating him for.
Since we learned this, I have attended every medical appointment with him. His health is being much more closely monitored now, if I may say so.
Problem is, my husband may soon be transferred half a country away. My sister is still local and can generally over see his status, but she works full-time and cannot attend all his appointments.
So, I'm looking for your best tips on how to continue overseeing his care from a distance. I hold DPOA, and he had signed HIPAA authorizations for every facility that asks, but I'm very concerned about how to manage general communications with the medical offices. How do I even get copies of office visit findings?
Your dad lives by himself in his home? You might want to discuss with him selling the house and moving to the area you will be in. Doesn't sound like it is something that has to be done right this second, but discussed. Or look into hiring someone to help him at home part time and go to Dr. appts. The problem with that is finding someone who is honest and reliable.
But if your husband is going to get transferred you need to discuss a plan. Your dad could move into an AL in your new area, if him living with you isn't something you want.
But you need to have an open and honest discussion as to what the long term plans are for all involved.