My father has a fixation that I've stolen money from him. Actually reported me to the police. I didn't do this. And I really want you relationship back with my father and I really miss my stepmother. The investigation started last June. I'm sure the detective has found nothing. I just don't know where to look for someone who could meet with me and him and help him see if didn't do this.
Where was the chemo? Has your father had whole brain rads?
You suggested a lawyer. What typeof lawyer should I talk to?
Have you ever heard of anyone else in this situation?
Im absolutely shocked by all of this. And unfortunately i found out right at the same time my mother had a massive stroke. She lived for a month after that. So i just recently lost my mother which is just making this situation harder.
I'm not familiar with any other similar situations, but then most of the information I get is online rather than from families other than a few who are in a similar situation.
The only other situation I'm aware of in my personal experience is a family in which one of the siblings was very contentious, dishonest, accusatory, and conniving. I don't know of any families in which mediation has involved a parent and adult sibling.
It's been quite a while since I've had done any research in this area, so w/o doing so, these are just some suggestions. Contact your local county or state bar association and ask if there are attorneys who mediate in family situations. Most that I was aware of years ago mediate litigation or through the American Arbitration Association, but there might be some in a family law or elder law practice area who might mediate in family issues.
Even someone in a litigation practice area could mediate, and that might just as good b/c the focus would be to avoid further escalation of the friction and find a solution now.
You could also call any local law schools; there might be some law profs who do mediation on the side.
If, however, your father does pursue the complaint he filed and the police continue to question you, you'd want a criminal lawyer, and ONLY a criminal lawyer to represent you and guide you through the next steps.
My father is completely cured from the cancer and has absolutely no physical issues. He and his wife, who i spent every summer with growing up, live part time in the USA and part time in Europe. They have a very healthy lifestyle. They walk about 10 miles a day. They go dancing every friday night.
I understand for a lot of people they would just let it go. But it is too much for me. I will try to contact a lawyer. Hopefully they can help. If the police discover and tell my dad that nobody stole from him do you think he would listen to them? I'm afraid a lawyer will reaffirm what he believes and he will think worse of me.
Good luck
Many times the police are familiar with elders doing this. They told me it happens all the time. When I went through this, it was awful. My mom and I were always on good terms. Once the accusations started - she hated me. I literally mourned the loss of my mother.
Someone told me to wait awhile and not talk to her. I did exactly that. I waited about 4 months and she forgot all about it.
I am so sorry this is happening to you. If dad does have dementia - don't take it personally - it is the disease. It is hard not to though.