She is almost totally non-functional (she can't walk, talk & trouble eating). Only last week she could say a few words; now she can't. She's in bed all the time now. Our caregivers have to have some time off leaving me to take care of her but I don't know how; where the things for her care are or how to move her - I saw somewhere Medicare covers 90 days of nursing home care - does anyone know about this?
When my mom - who had lewy body dementia - has surgery a decade ago, she was totally cognitive to do rehab. But when she broke her hip at the NH 2 years ago, she did not have the cognitive ability to do rehab. She was probably ok for surgery health wise but rehab flat would not work as no cognition. So she went onto hospice instead. moms doc would not write orders for rehab as it would be a waste, there could be no rehab progress realistically.
There are no simple & easy answers in all this. Getting your mom on hospice is likely to be the most straightforward option as the system is set up to do hospice evaluation quickly.
Hospice can also be done at a NH -my mom was on hospice within her NH for almost 2 years. Medicare paid hospice for the entire time, there seems to be no time limit but they do get recertified every 60/90 days. A lot of what hospice does depends on what type of care she needs and how the NH coordinates with hospice.
It sounds as mom may not have much time left. If mom has assets over 2k or income over about 2,050 she may not financially qualify for Meducaid. They really have to be impoverished for medicaid. If mom has the funds to be paying for caregivers at home, she may have the funds to pay for her r&b at a NH or in facility hospice. The Medicaid application is within itself quite a bit of work to do. If yiu kniw that mom has funds, applying is probably not a good use of your time.
Medicare will cover this time if she is sent to the nursing home from a hospital, but not directly from home. I'd suggest private pay for now to get her settled and then hospice care which is covered by Medicare.
If her assets are spent down rapidly, then you'll have to have her transferred to Medicaid which will cover all costs for the nursing home and hospice.
Take care of yourself by getting help during this sad and challenging time.
Carol
Your post suggests that you need more care for your mother now than she's getting. Perhaps a nursing home at private pay rates would be more cost effective in the long term, going forward.